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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

Posted in Planning 352

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    So many people paying for their own wedding. That's awesome!! I am very blessed to have my family paying for most of the wedding. I've bought some decor and we'll pay for the rehearsal dinner because FH's family is not able to help. My Dad gave me a budget about 15 years ago when he thought I was going to eventually get engaged to my ex. My family is really excited and want to help. Either way I bet we will all have amazing days!

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  • Benjamin
    Devoted October 2017
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    We are paying for everything plus the HM

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  • M
    Super November 2016
    MBP2000 ·
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    My parents offered to pay for venue rental and catering. We are paying for the rest of the wedding and honeymoon.

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  • FutureMrsL2018
    Savvy July 2018
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    We are paying for everything... Never crossed my mind to ask family to pay for anything, we're both adults!

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  • Christina
    Dedicated November 2016
    Christina ·
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    We are. My dress was 500.i paid 100 of it. Sister paid 100,my grandparents 100 and my mom 200. His step mom has offered to pay the 100 for the pastor and my dad has bought half of the champaign . FH income all goes to bills so with my income I have been saving all I can. So we are paying for everything even my sisters dress. It will be simple.

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  • Milagro
    Dedicated August 2018
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    My fmil is giving me a budget whatever i go over my fh will have to pay for it

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  • Leticia
    Dedicated February 2020
    Leticia ·
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    We are doing this all on our own.... the planning and the paying. It is our day!!!!

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  • Allison
    Dedicated October 2021
    Allison ·
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    We're footing all of the costs on our own. I wish our parents could help, and I'm sure they'll pitch in a little something, but I don't really expect it from them.

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  • Catalena
    Dedicated November 2019
    Catalena ·
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    We are!
    And it is unbelievably stressful 😅
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  • jackie
    Beginner June 2019
    jackie ·
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    We paid for 90ish% of it all. aunt paid for my dress. mom paid for flowers and the extra 20 people she "had" to have there.

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  • Deanna Reiss
    Just Said Yes June 2022
    Deanna Reiss ·
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    We’re paying! Both our parents are contributing, but they were kind enough to offer the contribution as more of a “wedding present” than “this is for the wedding”. So we made our budget without factoring in their money and are sticking to it :-)
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  • Kaitlin
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kaitlin ·
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    My fiancé and i are paying for most of the wedding, our wedding gift from my parents is them paying for catering.
    everything else is on us which i am 100% ok with. Just the catering along is a big weight off of our shoulders, though it was not expected it’s just a bonus!
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