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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

Posted in Planning 352

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • The Future Mrs. Jones
    Dedicated October 2017
    The Future Mrs. Jones ·
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    Paying for ours.

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  • FutureRoske18
    Dedicated October 2017
    FutureRoske18 ·
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    We are too.

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  • Samantha
    Savvy August 2017
    Samantha ·
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    My FILs are paying for alcohol. The rest is on us.

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  • Soon to be Mrs.Desautel
    Expert August 2017
    Soon to be Mrs.Desautel ·
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    We are

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  • Lynn
    Expert September 2017
    Lynn ·
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    We are paying. We are older and my parents are deceased. FH'S mother lives on SS. I would never thank to ask for cash to get married.

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  • C
    Just Said Yes May 2017
    Ciara ·
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    We are plus our honeymoon!

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  • Ashley
    Dedicated March 2018
    Ashley ·
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    We are paying for it ourselves. My mom will try and help with my dress, but she doesn't really have money like that to assist with. I asked my dad how much he could contribute. His pride wouldn't let him give me a number. He asked how much I needed. I told him, and he said he will do what he can. He is taking care of my grandma, so I'm not really expecting much. We will see. If he could help, with the deposit of the venue, I would be happy. I have a fear someone is going to take our date!

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  • A
    Just Said Yes September 2016
    Amber ·
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    I am paying for basically everything....mil helped with maybe 50 dollars. My mom helped with 100 dollars for evening gown, lots of ppl r donating things (like a little photography for a gift) other than that it's all me and the fiance

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  • Sasha
    Super April 2017
    Sasha ·
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    I'm pretty much covering everything. FH is out of work right now due to an on the job accident. My mom was kind enough to buy my dress for me, but other then that it's only us. It's our wedding. I don't really want anyone to cover anything unless I'm really sinking but I'm good. I feel like if my family could help, they would but I take pride in just us really doing this cause I'm working my butt off to get every nit and grit done down to the finest detail.

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  • V
    Beginner November 2016
    Vanessa ·
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    We are!!

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  • FutureMrsWhitman
    Expert December 2016
    FutureMrsWhitman ·
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    Paid for everything including the dress and honeymoon. My mom said she is taking care of the rehearsal dinner and the shower but then needed me to front the money for the deposit cause she didn't have it. She's broke AF but she's my mom and I love her. Lol

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  • HisBlackbird
    Devoted October 2017
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    My mom is helping, but I'm definitely getting most of it.

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  • Melissa
    Savvy January 2017
    Melissa ·
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    Beep beep! Us too!

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    Devoted July 2018
    Cham ·
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    We are because were grown adults and were getting married not mommy and daddy!!

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  • Victoria
    Super September 2016
    Victoria ·
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    We did! I had a guest come up to me and tell me we were lying that we did it on our own and that my grandparents had to have helped us!

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  • Lisali0409
    Dedicated April 2017
    Lisali0409 ·
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    We are

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  • Chandra
    Expert December 2024
    Chandra ·
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    We are

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  • Lakeya
    VIP September 2017
    Lakeya ·
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    Not sure if I posted already but my fiancé and I will most def be paying for OUR wedding!

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  • StephanieSky
    VIP March 2017
    StephanieSky ·
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    We are

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  • Tinamarie
    Just Said Yes September 2017
    Tinamarie ·
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    Every. Single. Thing. Paying ourselves.... I often feel ashamed about it sometimes and wish I came from a family able to jump at offering to pay for something, especially my wedding dress, but I don't and i feel guilty about the financial stress it brings on my fiance & myself. I refuse to have a bridal shower to avoid the extra cost. We have close friends of ours planning their weddings at the same time-same year who have families that are helping out a great deal. So it's hard for me not to compare but I pinch myself to snap out of it and keep focused on ourselves and to be more grateful to be able to push through on our own... Reading these forums helps me realize we are not alone .....

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