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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

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I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • T
    Devoted October 2019
    Tiffany ·
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    We are! If either side wants to help cool. But we also will only accept minimum help because we dont want others to have a lot of say in OUR wedding.

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  • mellymel
    Super October 2016
    mellymel ·
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    We are

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  • Patricia
    Super September 2017
    Patricia ·
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    We are Smiley smile

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  • Crystal
    Devoted September 2016
    Crystal ·
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    We are

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  • Megglesleslye
    Super May 2016
    Megglesleslye ·
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    We are. FH dad is building our arch and my MOH has her own business of making signs for locals and companies. She told me she wanted to make a few for our wedding as our gift. But other than that, we are paying every penny.

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  • Krystle
    Devoted September 2017
    Krystle ·
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    I am!

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
    OMW ·
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    My parents were dead, so... yeah.

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  • EventuallyErmon
    Expert September 2017
    EventuallyErmon ·
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    FH and I are paying for ours except the dress. My mom surprised me and made one of my 3 dress payments. So very sweet of her.

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  • Deanna
    Devoted January 2017
    Deanna ·
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    We are!

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  • Megan
    Devoted March 2017
    Megan ·
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    My parents gave us a great start, but I would say 65% of it is on us, plus rehearsal and honeymoon, like Sarah.

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  • J
    Savvy May 2017
    Jacqueline ·
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    My parents are deceased. My fiancée Dad is deceased. And both of us have been married before. So between my fiancée & a little help from his Mom.... we're paying for our wedding.

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  • Kathy
    Savvy September 2018
    Kathy ·
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    We areeeeee!

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  • Leah
    Super May 2017
    Leah ·
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    We are paying for most. Our parent insisted on paying for the venue and my grandmother bought my dress.

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  • Ashley
    Expert August 2017
    Ashley ·
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    We are too! And we are not using credit cards, loans, and all that jazz. Straight money from our paychecks. Don't want to go into debt spending a tremendous amount of money for one day. My guest will be happy and full on that one day but we are buying a house so that's where all the money is going!

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  • Tiffany
    Devoted November 2016
    Tiffany ·
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    Https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/who-pays/ea2f06b020558162.html

    for those of you who have been "rubbed the wrong way" or think I am trying to shame people, please read this post for clarity.

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  • StokedToBeASaucier
    Master September 2017
    StokedToBeASaucier ·
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    My parents and his parents offered and amount for the wedding and we'll be paying the rest and we'll also be paying for our honeymoon.

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  • Jeanne
    Savvy March 2017
    Jeanne ·
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    We are paying for everything ourselves. I think half my fun is trying to do everything within a budget. It's like a challenge that I just want to win!

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  • weddingdiva2016
    Expert October 2016
    weddingdiva2016 ·
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    I'm paying for almost the whole reception. My future husband is paying for the band and the honeymoon. My parents gave me about 1500 towards the reception and are paying for the flowers and my dress. They also paid for some other things like the invitations and favors... Although I am getting help, I have put at least 20 grand down so far!!!

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  • Elizabeth
    Devoted July 2017
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    My parents done enough for me.. We are paying!! Time for my parents to enjoy themselves knowing that they done me proud that I can afford too..

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  • S
    Dedicated October 2016
    Shelby ·
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    My fiancé and I are paying for our wedding, with the exception of my dress. Both of us are 19.

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