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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

Posted in Planning 352

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

352 Comments

  • SoonToBeSummers
    Super May 2017
    SoonToBeSummers ·
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    We are paying for a lot of it but FH's parents offered to cover the venues for us. Thank God.

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  • Jamillah
    Dedicated September 2016
    Jamillah ·
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    We are!

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  • Lauren17
    Master July 2017
    Lauren17 ·
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    We are paying for everything ourselves including the honeymoon! I would never want to burden my parents with a financial hardship!

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  • Braincatcher
    Beginner August 2018
    Braincatcher ·
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    We are. It's not my first rodeo and we're coming up on 40.

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  • D
    Dedicated April 2017
    Danielle ·
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    His parents are doing the flowers ( they offered) and my mom has offered to pay for dress. We didn't ask and were planning to pay for everything, without going into debt, willingly.

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  • FutureHennigan
    Super September 2018
    FutureHennigan ·
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    We are.

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  • Brianna R.
    Dedicated June 2017
    Brianna R. ·
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    We are!

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  • Carina
    Beginner June 2018
    Carina ·
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    We are except for the dress.

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  • Laura2.0
    VIP March 2017
    Laura2.0 ·
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    We are!

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  • WHO? Mrs. Jones
    VIP December 2016
    WHO? Mrs. Jones ·
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    Me!

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  • Alicia
    Super November 2016
    Alicia ·
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    I am.

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  • Caitlin
    Master July 2017
    Caitlin ·
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    FH and I are mostly paying, but his parents are paying for the ceremony site as their wedding gift and my mom is covering some parts since I'm her "only baby" and she's been "dreaming of this day" since I was born

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  • Mercy
    Expert September 2016
    Mercy ·
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    We are!

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  • Sabrina
    Expert April 2017
    Sabrina ·
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    Right here.

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  • Chantel14
    Devoted October 2016
    Chantel14 ·
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    We are. My parents helped out a bit, but otherwise it was all us!

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  • Almost Mrs. Dowell
    Devoted November 2017
    Almost Mrs. Dowell ·
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    We are paying for our own. No help from our parents. We also will not be going in to debt over our wedding although it'll be around 130 people.

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  • Katrina
    Just Said Yes September 2017
    Katrina ·
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    We are. My mom is still trying to insist on paying for things. But I know how much she makes; & she really can't. I gave her one area to pay for: booze. That's it.

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  • Jenny
    VIP December 2016
    Jenny ·
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    I think the majority are...

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  • NotThatFreakinMary
    VIP November 2016
    NotThatFreakinMary ·
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    We totally are!!

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  • Jess
    Dedicated July 2017
    Jess ·
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    We are paying 1/3, my parents offered to pay 1/3, and his parents offered to pay 1/3. We didn't expect them to pay anything but because 70% of the guests will be coming from his large family they felt responsible to pay for their portions since we aren't very close to distant relatives.

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