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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

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I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • M
    Dedicated August 2017
    Melanie ·
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    We are

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  • Katelyn
    Expert September 2016
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    I just want to add in, that I am not paying. We couldn't afford it. That's why we are getting married at the courthouse. My dad offered to throw us a party the next day to celebrate with all of the family. I am very grateful that he offered, but I would have never demanded it. He is not very wealthy and my mom, out of the question for any of that. I think it's great that so many people are able to take a year or two and save. Honesty even if we tool a year or two we wouldn't have been able to save enough for a big wedding and even if we could, it would go to more essential things like schooling, a home, or cars. Not everyone makes the same amount of money, so everyone does it different and some people can never really afford that big wedding. The point is no matter what we shouldn't expect our part to pay, because that's just wrong.

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  • Katelyn
    Expert September 2016
    Katelyn ·
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    We shouldn't expect out parents to pay** sorry. I really hate editing on mobile. It's so difficult.

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  • Ro
    Expert July 2017
    Ro ·
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    It's my beau and I.

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  • Martins
    Super October 2016
    Martins ·
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    We're paying for everything too, also not going into debt!

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    Me me me!! Although my mother did gift me my dress.

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  • Missy
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    Missy ·
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    We are fortunate. We are paying a portion, and my parents are paying a portion. We never expected them to, it is something they want to do (and have insisted). Regardless, even with their contribution, we are being extremely budget conscious (I am not taking their money as an opportunity to go wild). And since my parents have not stated a specific amount, I am budgeting with the thought in mind, "if we end up having to pay for it all, we will".

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    We are.

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    Tonya ·
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    Me and my honey are

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  • Nicole
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    Nicole ·
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    We are!

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  • Jamiee
    Devoted November 2017
    Jamiee ·
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    I am. My mom asked me if I wanted to help me and I told her not financially I didn't because she helped me enough by raising me as an only child to a single mom.

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  • QueenDavis
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    QueenDavis ·
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    We are for the most part, Mom is getting the cake, dad is getting the photographer, FMIL is getting invitations, FMIL is just getting on my nerves lol

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  • Carlyn
    Devoted June 2017
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    We didn't ask for the help of our families. It was graciously offered, and graciously accepted. We are contributing to our special day as well. We are also (obviously) accepting their input during the decision making process. We feel blessed and lucky to have the help.

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  • MeetTheHamiltons
    Master April 2017
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    We are! Step-dad wants to pay for the rehearsal dinner but everything else is on us.

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  • Brittny
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    Brittny ·
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    We r

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  • Michelle W.
    Expert November 2016
    Michelle W. ·
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    We are!

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  • K
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    Kiley ·
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    I am. FH doesn't have much to contribute. #militarywife.

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  • 24kMagicWed
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    24kMagicWed ·
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    My FH and I are paying 40%, my parents are paying 40%, and his parents are paying 20%. Our parents offered the help. I'm also the only daughter. I don't think it's shameful, as we didn't expect them to pay but rather they insisted.

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    Just Said Yes March 2017
    Teia ·
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    We are!

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  • FutureMrsReed
    Devoted July 2017
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    We are!

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