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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

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I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • FreshToDeathAng
    Master September 2016
    FreshToDeathAng ·
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    We are paying for 99% which I'm perfectly okay with

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  • MrsMorgan2018
    Devoted March 2018
    MrsMorgan2018 ·
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    We are!

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  • Maria
    Devoted October 2016
    Maria ·
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    Absolutely me and FH

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  • S
    Dedicated May 2017
    Shavon ·
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    We are... The WHOLE thing.. No help with anything

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  • marryingmyknight
    Super April 2017
    marryingmyknight ·
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    We will be! That's why we have a firm budget.

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  • Elizabeth
    VIP September 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    OP- you may want to mention that in the original post... This thread realllllly rubs me the wrong way, as if we're inconsiderate and ungrateful people. We are contributing as much as we can- both financially and beyond (hello 1 million DIYs). We were both believers that we would only do something we could afford, until both of our parents insisted on paying. I know how unbelievably lucky we are, just so ya know...

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  • Nessa
    VIP December 2017
    Nessa ·
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    Us us us!

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  • Sfig91
    Savvy June 2017
    Sfig91 ·
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    We're paying for most of it.

    FILs are paying for our honeymoon as our wedding gift. My parents paid for my dress. And I have 2 cousins who offered to pay for our cake and the linens. We our very grateful for the offers. They were really unexpected as FH and I went into wedding planning, ready to pay for everything ourselves.

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  • T
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    The Buttonheads ·
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    We are :-)

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  • Victoria
    Savvy July 2017
    Victoria ·
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    My parents are "chipping in" but it's not really that much so I'm basically paying for it myself

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  • Laura
    Master September 2017
    Laura ·
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    We are!

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  • K
    Just Said Yes December 2016
    Kelly ·
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    We are!

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  • S
    Devoted October 2017
    Shay ·
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    This gal right Cher

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  • R
    Just Said Yes October 2017
    Rebecca ·
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    My fiancé and I are paying for our own wedding, engagement party and honeymoon. Our parents have offered to help with food/decorations in place of gifts, however. But we're doing it on our own!

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  • Juli
    VIP March 2017
    Juli ·
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    We are Smiley smile

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  • Nicpartyof5
    Super July 2017
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    We are! We're also paying for my immediate family to come (flight/hotel) because they aren't able to afford much these days and what's a wedding without your family, right?

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  • Simca
    Super April 2017
    Simca ·
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    We are

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  • Zulander
    Super July 2017
    Zulander ·
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    We are! Wouldn't have it any other way.

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  • Diva Bride 2 Be
    Expert July 2019
    Diva Bride 2 Be ·
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    Me & My FH r payin 4 our entire Wedding. Which is hard due financial setbacks; raising our 3 children. So we decide 2 longer engagement order save 4 the Wedding we wanted. If relatives (on either side) decided 2 offer or contribute fine, but we're not asking anyone tho.

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  • Ashley M
    VIP May 2022
    Ashley M ·
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    We are! My grandparents did offer to pay for the church. My grandma on my moms side offered to pay the deacon. My mom bought my dress. We are not expecting anything but will be thankful if anyone does help.

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