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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

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I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

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  • Katrina
    VIP July 2017
    Katrina ·
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    Yep. Every dime.

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  • Hadley
    Expert June 2017
    Hadley ·
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    We are and sometimes I wish I had a secretly rich relative who could pay for it lol

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  • OregonGirl
    Super September 2016
    OregonGirl ·
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    My parents gave us 10K and we are paying maybe 6K. They paid for the venue and food and we are paying for the rest.

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    Megan, if you were my daughter I'd be there so proud to support you two in your life together. You have a right to that support. I'm profoundly sad when parents ignore their kids best life just to prove some (usually ignorant) point.

    For those that think this thread is meant for everyone to brag that they have no help paying, well that's untrue. The point is that no-one owes you a wedding.

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  • Alexandra
    Dedicated July 2017
    Alexandra ·
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    We are!

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  • L
    Devoted October 2016
    Leigh ·
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    Yeah....paying for ALL of by myself.

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  • OfficiallyMrsG
    Super September 2016
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    We mostly did. His mom gave us a little, but we could have easily done without it, and we certainly didn't ask for or expect it. We also helped my family be able to afford to attend buy letting then stay here while my then FH and I got a hotel, we also paid for transportation.

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  • K
    Savvy July 2017
    Kalesha ·
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    We are paying for most of it my future in laws are paying for the flowers, rehearsal dinner, and my step daughters dress (she is a bridesmaid and they offered) my parents (divorced) are splitting the cost of a photo booth. My mom is making and buying the centerpieces and favors. My dad and stepmom are covering the cake. We are paying for the rest

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  • AAK
    VIP September 2017
    AAK ·
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    We are paying for our own wedding!

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  • Mrs.Wife
    Super October 2017
    Mrs.Wife ·
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    We are.

    My parents have said they will pitch in but our budget is STRICTLY based on what we can afford. Any extra help will be last minute upgrades.

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  • Mrs. RATR
    Master September 2016
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    My parents are paying for about 2/3. Initially I wanted to stay within the amount they had given me; but after researching and pricing vendors I realized I wasn't going to be able to do that. Rather than ask for more, I have made up the difference myself.

    If my parents had not offered to contribute, we would have had a much smaller, simpler wedding or a longer engagement.

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  • SoonToBeMrsP!
    Super October 2016
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    100% and no honeyfund, either ;P

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  • Nicole
    VIP June 2017
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    We are

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  • Khaleesi
    Devoted October 2016
    Khaleesi ·
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    Im paying for my own wedding. My mom gave me 200 dollars but thats it. Ive been putting a little towards wedding every paycheck. So far its working out. No debt Smiley smile

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  • Kristen
    Super September 2017
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  • Nikita
    Savvy May 2018
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    We are paying for everything. Found my dress super cheap to aid in budgeting. My mom is paying for little bits here and there, that I probably would have cut because of budget, but she decided they were important for me to have. My parents told me from little on that they were not paying for my wedding.

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  • Megan P.
    Dedicated November 2017
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    @Jacks you are seriously too kind! That made me tear up a little (': We have support from our friends and that's good enough for us, they're all like family anyways. The way I see it, it's all on their conscious. They have to miss the single most important day in their daughters' lives, just because they won't let their guard down. I understand everyone has their own beliefs and are entitled to whatever opinions they choose but come on, you're our parents. We're the same person you knew us as before we told you we were gay. Not a big deal.

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  • Ali
    Master June 2017
    Ali ·
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    We are.

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  • PushingButtons
    Super May 2017
    PushingButtons ·
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    We are, with the exception of my grandma putting down the deposit on my dress.

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  • I’Mmrsv
    Super September 2017
    I’Mmrsv ·
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    Me and my FH are funding our wedding and honeymoon! Lord knows we will be in the poor house after, but our guests will have the time of their lives!


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