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Tiffany
Devoted November 2016

Who's paying for their own wedding?

Tiffany, on September 6, 2016 at 8:19 PM

Posted in Planning 352

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here. ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a...

I think just to show a few ladies who think it's their parents responsibility to pay exactly how many of us are paying, everyone who is paying for their own wedding should comment here.

ETA: Because I forgot that people on the internet take offense to things that are not about them. This site is a guilty pleasure of mine. Yesterday I had the most stressful wedding planning day to date. I get online and the first post I read is titled "who pays". While reading through the comments, I come across a girl who is upset that her father refuses to pay even though he is financially able. She sounded like an entitled brat. She then commented that she really doubted the majority of us were paying on our own. This "rubbed me the wrong way" I started this post to prove a point that the majority of us are in fact paying on our own. I am in no way trying to shame those fortunate enough to have family help. Nor do I think I am better because I don't.

352 Comments

  • Emily
    Dedicated November 2016
    Emily ·
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    We are and wouldn't have it any other way ! Smiley smile

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  • O&L
    VIP September 2016
    O&L ·
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    We are paying for everything. We both also helping our parents out financially so it makes no sense if they offer to pay.

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  • B
    Dedicated October 2016
    Bethany ·
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    We are. Er Lil bit of it!

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  • Private User
    VIP August 2014
    Private User ·
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    I didn't think it was my "parents responsibility to pay." We didn't ask them to pay anything. They still volunteered to pay, which they did, for everything but our rings, honeymoon, and rehearsal dinner (in-laws paid).

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  • LynZLeigh
    VIP June 2017
    LynZLeigh ·
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    My mom transferred a certain sum into a bank account for me the day I got engaged, and it was very generous and unexpected. I certainly never asked her for it, though, and if I go over that amount, it's coming out of my pocket. I don't even want FH to pay in that case, because I want a bigger wedding than he does. Bottom line, if your parents give you money, YAY! But it certainly not required or expected. I'm also having a pretty great time planning with my mom involved. Oh, we are also covering rehearsal dinner and honeymoon ourselves, not out of that budget.

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  • Amanda
    VIP October 2016
    Amanda ·
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    We've had about $3000 worth of help. We are paying for the rest. We've had life happen (unexpected expenses) & it's completely messed with my budget & planning but we just had to cut some things out. I'd never ask for more help than offered even though my parents absolutely would've helped more if I had asked.

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  • I'm Mrs Shuey
    VIP September 2016
    I'm Mrs Shuey ·
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    We are.

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    Dedicated July 2017
    Elizabeth ·
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    We are. Paid for my own college education too

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  • Brooke
    VIP October 2016
    Brooke ·
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    Yes with the exception of my dress.

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  • Fran
    Just Said Yes August 2017
    Fran ·
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    We are!

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  • L
    Just Said Yes June 2017
    Leslie ·
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    We are.

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  • Alison
    Expert November 2016
    Alison ·
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    We planned something we could afford to pay for ourselves. My dad and FH's stepdad/mom have both offered to contribute a bit and are doing rehearsal dinner, which is very generous, but if they were to back out, we could still cover it.

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  • Carly
    Super September 2017
    Carly ·
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    My FILs are helping with a portion of the venue cost as a wedding gift; other than that, it's all on us. skipping honeymoon for now as there are more important things to be taking care of.

    we are blessed and fortunate to be able to have a celebration after our vows.

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  • Hallie
    Expert November 2017
    Hallie ·
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    My mom paid for half of my $700 wedding dress as a surprise. I declined my dad's offer of financial help because I didn't want drama from my stepmother.

    I don't begrudge anyone who graciously and gratefully accepts offers of help, however.

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  • Jenna
    Super July 2017
    Jenna ·
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    Yesssss

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  • R
    Super June 2017
    Robin ·
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    Paying for half. I am great fully for all the money my parents gave me.

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  • MarleyAnne22
    Super October 2016
    MarleyAnne22 ·
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    We definitely are!

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  • Mrs Abbey
    VIP July 2017
    Mrs Abbey ·
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    We are paying 100%

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  • xray12280
    Master June 2017
    xray12280 ·
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    We are! My mom did tell me she would pay for my dress, but she hasn't actually given me any money towards it and that's ok if she doesn't. FMIL said she would give us something toward the alcohol. But again not counting on it, if they contribute that would be awesome!

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  • Cassidy
    Savvy March 2017
    Cassidy ·
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    My dad is paying for everything. Sugar Daddy that is.

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