Which is more rude, cash bar or dry wedding?

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I agree with this. If you won't go simply because I'm not having alcohol at my wedding/having people pay for the wedding then you are obviously are going for the wrong reason and I don't want you to attend my wedding anyways. I am having an open bar but it will be costing us a crap ton and I'm only going through with it because my parents are paying and insisit.

Dryyyyyyyyyyyyy

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Preachhh!!!

I find this interesting, here is Wisco, a cash bar is normal. Usually it's free beer and wedding party drink nfree but after dinner guests pay.

This time were doing full open bar though.

Unless a dry wedding is for religious reasons, then both are incredibly rude. I will never understand the thinking behind a cash bar/dry wedding as a means to save money/not spend money/not have the budget for it. Can't properly host then wait until it is so, or have a small affordable wedding that's still hosted well.

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I think it comes with what your culture is, like some said. My FH and I are having a dry wedding because we are both pastors and he is a counselor at a recovery center for addiction. Because those are the people in our world, we have decided that we are having a dry wedding.

I think a cash bar is ruder, but I'd still rather attend one than a dry wedding

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Here, here, LADIES!!! I agree COMPLETELY you tell em!!!! ^_^

NOBODY should have to be FORCED to provide alcohol if they don't need or want to at their wedding and to all those who scoff at the idea of not coming over alcohol? There's the door...bye, BYE!

My problem when it's not offered is when the excuse is budget/alcoholics/those who really love me don't mind. No. The truth is, those mask cheap host, wanting a pretty pretty princess day, cutting all the wrong corners. How one plans and hosts their wedding is very telling I'm how they are towards others in their everyday life.

Cash bar is ruder, but it's also the one I'd prefer. Honestly though? Neither one is a big deal to me, or something I would consider bad hosting (I'd have to look at the whole big picture before considering something good or bad hosting). I've been to a dry wedding before, in a Southern county that was dry (being from California, I had no idea there even were dry counties). And while I would have preferred drinks, it's not something where I would have thought to myself, "Wow I'm really bored, time to head out early!" Hopefully most people have the self-control to not leave early just cause there wasn't alcohol/they had to pay for their drinks!

As for all the people saying that they should wait until they can save money and "properly host" before having a wedding, I'm sure there are a bunch of reasons as to why not wait. Dying relatives, deployment schedules, work schedules, family conflicts. Or maybe they're just crazy in love, are ready to commit, and wanted to share that with their family and friends. Who knows! Is it really our place to judge as a guest?

I don't know who all these girls are on here, but I have to say I think 90% of them are probably pretty terrible people who care more about appearance and status than anything else. Your wedding is your day! It's your friends and your family that will be attending and if any of them are as offended as these girls are by a cash bar or dry wedding then they don't deserve to be invited to your wedding. It's not about free drinks and it's not about adequate planning it's about celebrating your love with the people you love

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This (not the part about people being terrible people, etc.) Everyone is entitled to their opinion but don't feel horrible if you decide to go down either route (dry or cash). I would say maybe at least have wine and beer or maybe a signature drink, but regardless it is your wedding day and there will always be something that people will frown about at your wedding - whether that be having a cash bar, having an adult only wedding, or even having a nontraditional dress. Who cares, at the end of the day people who truly care about you and genuinely want to be there will not care about the alcohol. It might come off as "bad etiquette" or not hosting your guests properly, but if you are providing them with entertainment, refreshments of some sort, food and a positive atmosphere...I think you will be fine. But, again I am not trying to disrespect anyone's opinion but this is just mine!

I don't know anyone who has a dry wedding in order to save money. All the people I know who have had dry weddings ( a lot) is for religious reasons.

I think this is one of those things that either way you go, people will complain. I think the only time everyone is happy is with an open bar and even then you've got some people complaining about how much other's are drinking. ~eye roll~ However, I feel like people would be less enthused with a dry wedding. For some reason, and maybe I just don't understand because I don't really like drinking, it is a huge offense to not have alcohol at a wedding. At least if they have the option of buying a drink they can have that element though they may still whine about it.

Dry wedding- I think it is just nice to give people a heads up either way so they know what to expect and be able to plan transportation. If I am not paying for drinks I'm getting an uber- if I am paying for drinks would probably drive depending on the distance

I think cash bar is ruder, I would never expect a guest I invite somewhere to pay. If you're looking to save on alcohol could you serve beer and wine only, and/or find a venue that lets you bring in your own?

I'd leave after the cake was cut if it was a dry wedding - at least with a cash bar it makes it easier to dance with a bunch of people I either don't know or hardly know.

Cash bar is worse - A dry wedding you can at least leave without feeling obligated to spend more money... A cash bar is like being invited to dinner only to find out the host's idea of dinner is a pop tart but there's lobster an that table over there, pull out your wallet! Never mind the expense it took you to attend in the first place... travel, hotel, baby sitter, pet sitter, wedding gift....