Which is more rude, cash bar or dry wedding?

I'm not a fan of dry weddings or a cash bar to be honest. I think cash bars are incredibly tacky.

We had an open bar at my first wedding (1994) and it went great. This past October we had open again - again, no troubles. I don't mind either, really - dry or cash. But I would expect a few negative comments if you wear a $4000 dress, serve roast beef, chicken or fish, have $6000 of floral arrangements, a photo booth, favors, etc then expect people to pony up for a whiskey sour. You can spend that much on those things, spring for at least beer wine and a signature drink.

I would personally rather have a cash bar because I want my damn drink. However I would be less offended with a dry wedding if the couple was doing it for religious reasons. I would still be salty and judge silently though.

I think you have to know your guests. My best friend and future MOH had a dry wedding because they couldn't afford the alcohol AND a close family member of hers was an alcoholic. We still had a GREAT time. If someone's going to be upset because you made the right decision for YOU are they really worth inviting?

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Yes, have the wedding you can afford! This includes inviting the number of guests you can properly host, which includes providing free alcohol.

Cash bar. I’d rather see they just aren’t serving it than be pissed that I have to pay for it.

View Quoted Comment If someone didn't attend my wedding simply because we weren't providing alcohol, I would reconsider my friendship with that person.

I would say cash bar is more rude. I see cash bar as cheap, whether dry wedding I would probably think there is another reason behind it rather than cheap. Not sure if you are thinking of doing this, but based on the both-sided opinions in here if you decide to go with either chances are you are going to have guests that think your choice is rude.

I would say a dry wedding, because offering no alcohol at all would be very rude and people would leave early. I'm not advocating for cash bars whatsoever, but i'd rather buy my drinks than not have any at all

Dry wedding. If I want to drink, at least make it an option.

The idea of having a cash bar to keep people from getting drunk is ridiculous. People get trashed at bars all the time.

I’d rather have the option to pay for a drink then no alcohol but I think they’re both rude.

Flagging you for name-calling.

Dry wedding

If you have to choose bc of budgetary, religious, or possibly due to being in recovery I would go with a cash bar. My aunt, who is in recovery did a cash bar and it made me feel so much easier going to get wedding.

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Yes girl, yes!

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I guess you now get flagged for honesty.

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I am in recovery and had open bars at both weddings. My issues with drinking does not eliminate the need for good hosting. We keep alcohol in our home, doesn't bother me a bit.

Dry wedding, for sure worse. A friend of mine had a wedding a few years ago and only served Coke products. They only played hits from 2010, too (because they started dating then). I love her, but man, that was a rough one.