Which is more rude, cash bar or dry wedding?

Every single wedding I've been to has been a cash bar and I haven't heard anyone complain. Ever. I think it's just important to let people know it will be a cash bar so they can prepare if. I know this is unpopular opinion but it is what it is. We are doing a cash bar and I have 100% no reservations about it.

Dry is worse from a real world view. Cash is worse for etiquette. If your budget ( or principals) won't let you at least have wine and beer, then opt for a short mid day or morning reception away from main meal times and definitely not at night. A breakfast wedding can be a lovely way to avoid/ heavily minimize alcohol while still having a lovely brunch or tea served.

Dry wedding. Rude and boring

I have never mind a cash bar, not as good as if you could just provide a selection of alcohol for your guests but the few dry weddings I have been to have always been the worst. I am not even really a drinker. I am just getting 2 kegs and 20 red and 20 white wines for 110 guests. Then going to a bar after the reception.

Cash Bar, because, if it said Dry.. if be sneaking in my own.

Cash because dry could be for religious reasons or alcoholism abuse reasons. Also I like alcohol, but I don't need it to have a good time.

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Not everyone can afford an open bar - so I see nothing wrong with a cash bar.

A dry wedding.

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I think that if when you throw a party you are obligated to throw the best party you can for the number of people you can afford to throw that party for. I can't afford a nice dinner and open bar for 200 people, so I kept my guest list small, ensuring that the people I invite, who themselves incur a cost to attend, will have a good time, be fed well, and drink what they want...Eat, Drink, and be Merry...

View Quoted Comment So you think if You are invited to a wedding a long with 200 other people and you are given a nice meal including a bountiful cocktail hour & a favor as a thank you for attending then the person hosting the wedding should pay for your drinks all night ? You would honestly judge someone who didn’t let you drink for free at their wedding ?

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Per the alcohol abuse reasons: This one slays me - people in recovery can take take of themselves, thank you.

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Yes. I invite people to my home, I feed them and hydrate them (with wine and beer, and/or a cocktail as well) and provide a comfy seat for them. The same goes for hosting a wedding. I don't even drink but I provide alcohol to my guests. If one can afford 200 people, one can cut the list to 100 and provide drinks.

View Quoted Comment I do the same, when I invite people to my home.. and the meal cost probably 1/3 of what a meal at a wedding cost... and also having people at my house I go to the liquor store, and buy the alcohol I know I will need.. I’m hosting a wedding and people are getting drink after drink, they get one drink, they don’t like it so they put it down and order another one because they’re not spending their own money.. they order a drink take a couple of sips and put it down at a wedding.. forget about it, and order another one becUse again their not paying for it .. you come to my house and I supply you with drinks, it’s fine because it’s all paid for before hand.

Although a cash bar may be more “rude” based upon traditional etiquette rules, I think a dry bar is more rude from a common sense/practical perspective because you aren’t even giving your guests an option to have a drink and most people would prefer to have that option. Most people are saying they would rather attend a wedding with a cash bar. I think good hosting is about doing what is best for your guests, so why make a decision based upon etiquette when it’s contray to reality?

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It sounds like you are feeling people will take advantage of an open bar. They might, they might not. But most people probably won't, so why punish them by making them pay for drinks?

View Quoted Comment I can’t say that I’ve ever gone to a wedding and thought of buying my own drinks as punishment.. and I’ve also never thought that it was rude, I tend to feel honored that these 2 people value me enough to invite me to join them on their special day, instead of judging them for not providing me with food and alocohol, I would much rather see those two people enjoying themselves and not worrying about anything then sitting there and judging them and calling them rude because they didn’t pay for my alcohol. That being said, I never stated whether or not I was having a cash bar at my own wedding but I am stating that I don’t find it RUDE if people do... open bar is wonderful but not in everyone’s budget, and if it were a friend or family member getting married I’d much rather them have the wedding of their dreams without an open bar then to settle elsewhere to be able to pay for my drinks

I’m sure a lot of people would say cash bar on here but I’d prefer the option to buy a drink than to not drink at all!

I am a bride on a budget for sure, and I don't think it is "rude" to have the wedding be dry or have a cash bar. The people you invite to share your big day are people who love/like/at least enjoy your company and alcohol shouldn't be the main focus. You do you! The only wedding I have attended so far in my adult life had a cash bar and I had no issue paying for the few drinks I decided to have and would've been equally fine without the option to have a drink.

That being said, despite our tight budget, we are having beer and wine and a signature mixed drink at our wedding because we know we personally will enjoy it more with a party atmosphere (nothing fancy here).

View Quoted Comment I agree with this completely !!