Which is more rude, cash bar or dry wedding?

Dry wedding

Cash tells there is no money to pay for drinks... if that is the case, water always can be served.

I know some people don't serve drinks for religious purposes....

I'm not religious, but dry weddings are often dry due to religious reasons (e.g., person's religion prohibits them from serving alcohol or the wedding is help in a church or other place of worship that doesn't allow alcohol). I wouldn't expect someone to violate their deeply-held religious convictions or the policy of their place of worship to serve me alcohol. I'm not even religious, but if someone is part of a particular religion or culture, I would be understanding if that influences their type of wedding. If a wedding has great food and drinks, that is a bonus, but I am mainly there to support someone I care about.

My Opinion it's your wedding its what you can afford to do and want to do. I don't see anything wrong with a cash bar it gives the guest a choice to get a drink or not. Your not obligated to supply alcohol, that's a luxury. People act like every wedding has to be the same there are no written rules. You are already feeding them. Do what you feel.

Dry wedding would be worst than a cash bar. If either of these things were to be done then something should be stated on the invitation to prepare people.

If you or your fiancé are in recovery and don't drink, I'd be fine with a dry wedding. If I have to travel to a cash bar/dry wedding, I wouldn't go. Just to attend my friend's wedding in Kansas cost me over $1,500. If I had spent that much and alcohol wasn't included when I got there, I'd be really angry. 4 flights, hotel, car rental, dog sitter, wedding gift all had to be paid for. Just a heads up.

Dry wedding by far (at least for my family). but i guess it depends on how much your family and friends like to drink LOL

Dry weddings (unless it's for religious reasons and everyone invited adheres to that religion) are cheap. Cash bars are rude and cheap.

I am amazed by some of these responses.

I think a cash bar would be a better option for your guests. This way they have an option to drink or not to drink. We are having an open (limited) bar with a tip jar for the bartender.

I believe that a wedding is about the bride and groom and not about tying one on. In some cases I'm sure there are couples who are in recovery or just don't like drinking. Please everyone, think about others and their situations when commenting!

Dry Wedding is more rude

I'd definitely rather pay than have nothing at all.

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Brittany, I agree with you. We are a rare commodity in this group I have found. We are having a cash bar but offering other beverage options at no cost. There are several reasons we went with this route and it doesn't matter to me if the women,men, whoever in this group or website agrees with my decision. It just blows my mind by the amount of hate and negativity people display when someone isn't doing what they feel is right or correct. Honestly, if those invited only want to come because there is free alcohol at the reception then I don't want them there.

A wedding is about celebrating the love of 2 ppl. Not for u to get free alcohol. Plus if the couple dosent drink. Why pay for others to and possibly get drunk and make a seen and ruin the wedding

We're Muslim, so to respect our beliefs and his family, we're having a cash bar. We don't disagree with drinking as I'll probably be drinking that day but it's just to keep his family happy. We advised our guest ahead of time through word and website but I'm sure people will still be upset.

Cash bar is rude. Dry wedding is simply inconvenient for some people (and may shorten the reception). If you have people over for dinner (which is what a reception is, on a large scale) you don't make your guests pay for ice cream with their cake; however, there's no requirement at all to serve ice cream.

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Totally agree.

My FH is Irish, in Ireland most weddings are cash bars after the meal. Usually it's just champagne toast and then wine at dinner included, anything after that during the party is cash at the bar. So I don't find cash bars that rude to be honest! But I understand that it's a cultural difference. There are some things I find shocking in different wedding cultures (such as the money dance where people pay to dance with the bride, or pin bills to the dress, for example!)...

If it were me, I would have a cash bar over a dry wedding. Not sure if this is a hypothetical question or not, but if you're really trying to make the decision between the two, could you have a bottle of wine per table or something? A small gesture that guests might appreciate