TACKY WEDDING STUFF.....

Any type of dress code, especially if it's written on the invitation. It's even worse when it's a made up dress code like "black tie optional." >_>

I find it incredibly tacky/rude when a bride decides on an outdoor wedding in the middle of summer, and has zero plan should the weather be HOT like it is in most places. "Oh, come see me get married, it's going to be 95 degrees, but it's just a 15-minute ceremony, so it's okay!" Uh, no. By the time your ceremony is over, I've been sitting in the sun for an hour and now I'm burnt to a crisp because I expected to at least have some sun protection like shade or something and didn't pull out my SPF50 for your damn ceremony!!

So I got invited to a wedding on Facebook. It's an open invite. I don't know the couple. It's this weekend.. I am tempted to go..

Nothing is tacky but that's what wedding are about. Clinking of the glasses and throwing the garter. End of the day it's your wedding if you can't afford open bar hopefully people understand. It's annoying, but if it's not important to them then that's their business. Really getting married is about the couple and the rest of their lives together. enjoy the celebrations or don't.

That is gross Ouida....in every way possible.

Free access to food.....it's like prison! How do people like this even HAVE friends?

@celia 180 saids yes, 90 interested. I am thinking it will be more like a state fair or lame concert.

This one may have been covered: but no seating plan. FH and I were photographing a wedding, at a fire hall, groom and groomsmen wore camo vests (oops, got off-topic), and it was an open seating plan. Someone was gracious enough to move from a table so FH and I could sit together for the meal service (buffet on styrofoam plates). And their DJ was a radio host of some sort. I know the DJ should get the crowd pumped up, but he used his radio host voice the. whole. time. Luckily it was an open bar, so I took full advantage (even as a vendor).

My aunt's wedding...

It was self catered so of course there was no one to cut the cake and apparently they forgot to appoint someone to do it. So her now ex-husbands family just started cutting and taking pieces for themselves before most people had even finished eating "dinner."

It was awful.

I don't think head tables are tacky... At all. I just think it's not considerate to the dates of the bridal party, that's all. That said, I've only been to one wedding that didn't have one.

@katie see, open bar make up for anything! Lol

@CMarie: Hmm, then they did the head table wrong, because the bridal party's SOs should be with them as well.

CMarie, tacky to me is inconveniencing guests. Head tables do that, unnecessarily. To your nearest and dearest friends.

Went to a wedding recently where the DJ announced no hands for the garter toss and it had to last longer than a minute. Then the groom sticks his head and neck down there and starts moving around for like a minute and half of awkward gasps while her brother, and parents are standing there in horror.

Grooms in baseball hats

Dove or butterfly releases

Fishes being used in centerpieces.

Announcing its now time to begin picking up and expecting your guests to take down chairs and tables.

Anything involving my brother in law at his wedding (throwing up on the flower girl, peeing on a golf green, rifle pictures, etc)

When meeting my dj he asked what song we wanted for a money dance. I almost puked.

But pretty much all of these things.

Not tacky but more rude, FBIL got married in June and out of 125 guests 102 were hers and 23 were his (the 23 included MOG, FOG, sisters who were bridesmaids, and my FH who was best man). She had a barn with a main area and side rooms that were separated by a wall. All his guests were in a side room (including FH aka the best man) and no one in his family could see him give his speech unless they left the table and went to the main room. We felt very excluded.

@brieliz - That is so ew...

So self catering is tacky...seriously?? Please elaborate on why it is tacky, who sets the standard?

Erin yes it is considered tacky and also potentially unsafe.

Who is going to do the self-catering? And if that person wasn't doing it what else might they be able to enjoy at the wedding?

Do you mean serving people? Is that what you mean by self catering? Or is it actually providing the food?

And how is it potentially unsafe?

@Erin: it's rude/tacky because you shouldn't be making friends and family, your GUESTS, work on your wedding day. Let them be guests.

It's unsafe because of the very high risk of food poisoning. Uncle Bob gets bored, for example, because he's missing cocktail hour tending the ice baths for the cold food. He wanders off, ice melts, and now you have people eating listeria and /or salmonella laden macaroni salad. YOU are also now responsible for your guest's hospital bills should they get sick, and heaven forbid there is someone who is pregnant and your carelessness causes her to get listeria and causes a miscarriage or stillbirth.

How would you feel knowing you killed a guest's unborn child?