TACKY WEDDING STUFF.....

YES! @tallah we went to a wedding where he spent way too long under her dress and shaking his head. It was just disgusting and I remember their parents being close by

Oh I see :/

Oh gosh shaking his head? Wth. Lol

Yeah luckily my FH doesn't want to do the whole garter thing.... Thank you Lord

Host couples (married couples/friends/family members of the bride or groom) who are hand-picked to schlep ceremony decor over to the reception and set it up, and who, according to one bride, found themselves in that "honored" position because they were too poor to be BMs, so now they'll be able to shop for cheaper dresses while pointing out to confused wedding guests where the venue bathrooms are -- oh, but hey...the unpaid help/guests get corsages so they are easily identified, and they also get front row seats at the ceremony, brides who claim that self-catering 250 guests (courtesy of family) is just fine because two years isn't enough time to either decide to cut the guest list or host a wedding they can afford -- and who...grrr...deleted her thread just as I typed out a very detailed, fabulous deal in a beautiful venue in her desired area -- with a contact person -- that costs less than $57 PP for a plated or buffet meal (unheard of in our area) including linens, Maitre' D service, wedding cake, hot passed apps at cocktail hour AND -- wait for it -- a five hour, standard OPEN BAR, couples who are having a DW that is so cost prohibitive that a majority of their honor attendants can't afford to attend, but the bride still posted pretending that she was conflicted with the issue of having those non-attendants buy gowns/rent tuxes and pretend they were actually honor attendants at a follow-up, conventional wedding reception weeks or months later (gifts, anyone? Oh, they're doing the faux attendant reception they intended to do), brides who ask if they can deduct their vendor meal prices from their vendor quotes -- or even worse -- brides who, when it comes to vendor meals, say, "He better bring his own meal for the fee he's charging me"...and that was just this week.

ETA: Maybe it doesn't count because it came from one of the aforementioned brides, but here goes: "Do I have to feed my cousin, the MUA?"

I don't think a garter toss qualifies as tacky. I get why it may not be your thing or make someone uncomfortable. Calling it tacky is a reach though.

Many garters come as a set so you usually get a throw away one to toss.

When people don't use their brain and decide to go with a buttercream cake for an outdoor wedding in the middle of summer. Thank you for melted cake.

Brides who think that their bridesmaids are supposed to help with planning, and then get mad when they don't "live up to their standards" not feeding your vendors, not inviting he spouses of guests or people in your bridal party, they're a social unit...if one goes all of them go.

When couples have a wedding that is very far from a black tie event then insist that their guests wear formalwear.

@taryn I just went to a wedding like that, asked how should dress and bride says formal and it was far from it...

Sweetheart tables have always bothered me. So have slideshows set to music - I just feel awkward trying to eat my salad while looking at your spouses half naked baby pictures!

Amen on the black tie comment. They are few and far between.

@jacks curious as to why you think head tables are tacky... It's just traditional. Traditional =/= tacky.

Making your guests open their wallets, bring their own anything, or wait longer than an hour between ceremony and cocktail hour are my big peeves.

How does a sweetheart table bother you @Natalie? The bride and groom are just sitting there eating their dinner.

Jack and Jill's and Stag and Doe's. Both of which I never heard of until I joined WW.

@GymRat - it may just be the weddings I've been to that have left a bad taste in my mouth. Went to one where the sweetheart table was on a platform with a spotlight on them. I'm the type of person that gets uncomfortable being the center of attention when I'm eating.

To each their own!

Lol well THAT'S tacky!

I think any time you blatantly ask a guest for money is tacky. Dollar dances especially! I don't think cash bars are tacky, just maybe not the best option. If you can't afford a full open bar, do wine & beer only.

Oooh! I thought of another one - drink tickets. Here's two tickets that are only valid for the keg beer we have in the back...everything else is cash only. But you get an extra ticket because you're in the wedding party and I appreciate you!

Went to a wedding in a barn that was WAY too small for the number of people. There were long tables that we all sat at. Literally chairs were back to back and people could not get out of their seats without some form of negotiation. There was also a dollar dance (no cultural connections) and the appetizers for cocktail hour literally came out of the walmart shopping bag, had the giant plastic lids popped off, and were placed on tables. Not enough for everyone to enjoy either.

Hate the ring bells or hit glasses to get the couple to kiss

Brown tuxedos. Those shiny plastic rental shoes that look like Ken would wear them to marry Barbie.

Paying 200 pp for each guest and having tomato cans of baby's breath on the tables.

Gaps when the ceremony is in the same space as the reception. Like we end at 4:30 and the bar doesn't open until 5:30....like what?

I'm not fond of head tables but don't think they are tacky persay. I just think it's rude to separate the bridal party from their dates like OGJaci said. I'm in a wedding in a few weeks where this is happening and I feel bad too because my FH is super shy and I know he's going to be really uncomfortable. I'm just going to chow down my food and go sit with him