TACKY WEDDING STUFF.....

My cousins wedding takes the award for most tacky. Arbys fries and roast beef catering, cash bar, vfw venue that smelled of smoke and had barbed wire fencing around the building and parking lot, the day before my family drove 8 hours to get there only to be asked to decorate the hall, cheap dollar store flowers and a tacky plastic banner, no ac in the church, the one bridesmaid got hammered and walked around with her dress pulled up and she wasnt wearing underwear. The list goes on

@Spirit, I actually looked into dove releases just for fun because it popped up on the WW vendor search for my area and I was curious. The doves are trained to fly off and then return to the trainer shortly after the release. I'm sure there are some bad places that don't use trained doves and simply release domesticated birds into an environment they are ill-equipped to survive in but in my area all the doves are trained, sort of like carrier pigeons or falcons. I still don't think it's worth the $$ though. And what if the bird poops on your dress?? Lol

I agree with everything on here except the head table. I've literally never been to a wedding without one. Ever.

I understand that people would like to sit with their dates, but it's only for like 40 minutes. We're doing a head table, and we are following all other etiquette to a T (open bar, tons of food, no gap, no garter toss, no dollar dance, honeyfund, etc.) I don't think a head table makes me tacky as hell. If it does, too late I guess. Wedding is in a week.

@OGJaci, That was my first thought! lol

I feel like you can't fault a church for not having AC. I just discovered ours doesn't a few months ago. Now I'm just praying we don't have a 90° day!!

No bartender. Stocked bar, just make your own. Guests having to clean up afterwards.

Dove releases, butterfly releases, balloon releases, sky lanterns... Anything that kills animals or is awful for the environment

@Kristen I hate the head table. The only time I've experienced one, I was the date of a groomsman, and I didn't know anyone else there. I had only met the bride and groom the night before. It was miserable to sit through a multi-course plated dinner when I was stuck at the singles table with the rest of the misfits.

The arbys came in boxes and they just opened the box and you got your food.

Ive went to plenty vfw weddings that were beautiful. This one, not so much. Maybe it was just the wedding as a whole.

I think too many different favors with the couple's names on them are tacky. I went to a wedding where they had sunglasses, koozies, mints, plastic drink glasses, and hats all with their names on them. Seriously?!

I personally feel that plastic table clothes are kinda tacky and look cheap

For me, it's not the idea of a head table per se. My FH was GM in FSILs wedding which included a head table. If it was just for dinner I didn't get to sit next to him, it'd be fine, but that BP was gone for what seemed like 85% of the night off taking pictures or doing BP "duties" or something. I guess that's what I find sort of tacky - when the BP and even the bride and groom are absent for a huge portion of the reception. The past few weddings I've been to this has been the case. I understand wanting lots of nice photos, but I'd want memories with my guests, too (and to enjoy the DJ and open bar I'm paying for).

@Celia, my dad wore a brown tuxedo to his wedding in 1976, lol. Their colors were brown and orange. YUCK.

I really like that we have a list going for people to see.

Cash bars or "drink tickets", limit the alcohol choices if cost is an issue...any "requests" for cash at the reception that are not synonymous with your culture. Let that be your guests choice to fork over any $$$ as a generous gift...LONG cocktail hour, don't make guests wait longer than hour or so...

Getting an invitation and the RSVP envelope has no stamp! Oh and putting your registry info on your wedding invitation!!!

Starting later than stated on the invite to accommodate late people, pushy bridal parties, forced dancing, forced participation in any reception game.

I once went to a self-catered wedding with a cash bar, money dance, and no assigned tables. It was awful and we didn't stay long.

My cousin's wedding had a "cocktail" hour that lasted like 2-3 hours with NO FOOD OR BOOZE. He and the bride wanted to go all over town taking pictures so the cocktail hour was forever-long. There was no booze because the groom's dad (my uncle) thought a priest was coming and didn't want to look like a sinner. My brother told him he just looked cheap lol.

B-Listing and beyond. FH and I were recently invited to a wedding that was a week and a half away by a guy he barely speaks to anymore. Uh, no.

At my wedding we had a head table and didn't separate anyone. We only had my sister and his best man stand in our wedding so we had their SO sit with them at the head table. And separating couples isn't tacky, it's just rude.

Maybe this one is just me, but got a thank you post card that was a pic of the bride and groom and a pre-printed generic thank you letter in it. Wasn't signed or anything... Oh and we're family.