TACKY WEDDING STUFF.....

@Jacks yes to a king's table! We haven't gotten to that part of our planning yet but I know how uncomfortable a regular head table makes FH as my date when I'm in a wedding so we will either do a king's table or a sweetheart table and have the bridal party sit with their dates.

Ashleigh, the bells/clinking glasses always seems so annoying and weird! FH and I aren't super into PDA so maybe that's why but...ick

I never knew before that head table =/= kings table. I thought "head" tables were fine because I've only ever actually seen what PP called a Kings table. I would have been so upset at those weddings if I'd been separated from my date. That is definitely tacky.

Yeah, I always thought head tables and king's tables were the same thing. O.o

Head tables are where it's just the WP And wedding couple. They are usually seated only on one side of the table so everyone can see them. Occasionally they're on a little stage or dias. Spouses are not included and are seated at another table.

I don't think I've seen it yet, but signs that say "Dave, this is your last chance to run!" "Daddy, here comes Mommy."

And anything that rhymes. Kindergarten was a great time, wasn't it?

People on their third wedding with white dresses on. Viginity? Nope. First marriage? Nope. First marriage to this guy? Well, you'd hope at some point. People on their third marriages with giant pomp and circumstance weddings with showers and bachelorettes. Come on. We're all purse lipping at this point.

Reception at a restaurant and asking guests to pay for their own meals.

@Ro: So does that mean that since this is my second marriage, I shouldn't get to have a nice/formal wedding because it isn't my first time around? Are you saying that somehow, my marriage to the man who treated me like dirt and damn near killed me was somehow more deserving of that than finding someone who treats me like gold?

So according to you, I'm tacky for wanting/having this wedding we're planning? I don't think so. You damn well better believe I'm wearing my white (ivory) dress for this wedding.

@FutureMrsC2b I picked out my garter this weekend and I actually showed my FH he asked if it was a headband. I explained (he didn't know, forgive him lol) what happens with the garter and he was grossed out.

I agree with the last chance to run signs being tacky. That's not how it works. The commitment to the relationship has already been made. That's like someone saying it's their last chance to fool around at the bachelor party. Not. How. It. Works.

The dress bit... wear whatever color you want. First wedding red dress? Stunning. Fourth wedding ivory dress? Fabulous. You want to be happy and celebrate your day with a huge party? Awesome. I'm happy for you, too. I won't be petty and judge you for your dress color.

This is maybe more rude than tacky but how about when the bride and groom take forever to get to the reception because they stopped for photos at a monument or park that had nothing to do with the wedding. Really? Your guests are waiting during your entire cocktail hour because you had to drive 20mins in the other direction for pics?

Sweetheart table and head table are Tacky??????? I dont understand why that would ever be but to each its own. Never heard of that until WW like PP mention. Most ppl do head tables so bridal party can be together. But hearing all the PP im not against including the plus one if room allows or a close table so they are near by and feel apart of the fun.. But they are tradition and usually fun for wedding party.

@mna I'm with you on that! this is my second wedding as well. And I'm also wearing a white dress!!

Wow, Ro. I'm on my third long term relationship. Second marriage. Remind me not to invite you, with your purse lipping. Holy hell.

FYI. I have a complicated history and my third relationship is justified. It's just none of your fucking business.

A Sweetheart table does not go against etiquette so in my mind are fine.

I LOVE THIS LIST! Thank you so much for starting this.

Dove releases...I don't like having animals involved

1. Cheap/gaudy BM dresses

2. underdressed guests

3. kings table = overkill.

4. over abundance of cheesey signage

5. flip flops to dance in

6. bubbles for recessional

7. camo anything

8. carriages

9. lack of appetizers for cocktail hour

@Ro, this is my 2nd marriage, I have 2 sons as old as many of the brides/grooms on here, I didn't have a big wedding the first time. (The marriage lasted "till death we did part"--almost 38 years.) I'm 64 years old, FH is 75 and I'm wearing a champagne colored dress and we are having a fantastic wedding!!! And anyone we invited who doesn't support us can just decline to attend!!!

I think some people need to learn what tacky means versus not their taste. Big difference. Some of things listed such as "bubbles at a recessional" is not tacky but a stylistic choice.

I hate those cake toppers of the bride dragging the groom away. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't feel like FH 100% wanted me/a marriage with me. It rubs me the wrong way.