No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

It would be fun to have it at a mini golf place... No, it's a true golf course. Would dressy casual be a better description? I mean khakis and sundress/nice capris...

And yes they all know we're married. They are all for this pseudo-wedding.

To me, dressy casual is jeans, heels, a blazer and a nice top.

So no. Don't say dressy casual.

Oh geez. I guess I should of asked that question. What do I tell people when they ask? For real, I just want people to be comfortable and to not have them all across the board.

@kristina ... I don't disagree that mini golf might be fun lol ... I would say garden attire ..

Garden attire sounds nice.

@Kristina, just be careful when you assume everyone is ok with a "pseudo wedding". This could definitely be one of those times (like telling them there's a cash bar) where people tell you to your face that something is a great idea, but in reality they disapprove.

The most graceful way to do this would be to send out invitations to your "vow renewal." I would also strongly recommend that you not have a bridal party, not be pronounced "man and wife" (you're already married), and probably... don't wear a big poofy wedding gown. Your guests should respect that much more than they would be able to respect a fake wedding ceremony.

Thanks for the warning, we still need to figure out the renewal setup... It's all because of our parents for our grandparents. The mom's threw me a surprise bridal shower in feburary, and I guess it went over really well, even though I was pretty against it. *i mean, it was nice, but I was trying to skip all that.*

For the heels and dress why don't you add and insert card to the invite with the heels rule? It's not uncommon for golf courses to not allow thin heels, so just make an insert card like you would an accommodations card saying some blurb about how the ceremony is on the green, for your comfort and to maintain the quality of the venue please consider flats or wedges. Then have a basket with cheap flip flops just incase. You can usually get some from a dollar store, or wait until old navy is having a super sale like they do usually around June.

As for specific attire people are gonna dress how their gonna dress. Cant really tell them otherwise.

Great idea. And the flip flop idea is really great... Accomodating.

Your wedding is an opportunity to educate the less mannered members of your family! Show them what real hospitality is.

Not tech savvy? Even my grandmother can turn on a computer, open a browser and type in a URL. How hard can that be?

And if they don't have access to the Internet, is there a younger family member that can spread the word about footwear?

Just when you thought it couldn't get any worse.

Macy? It's not okay.

I just don't get the point of the whole endeavor frankly.

I would never wear flats out, ever, regardless if you said "garden" "dressy" or "casual" attire" so you should do something to accommodate those people. Some people just do not "dress up" in flats.

And if you wanna control my shoes you should at least buy me a glass of wine to get over how ugly I am in these flats, gosh.

Do you know what the dress code is for the golf course itself? Be careful about saying "casual" most golf courses (if they're country clubs) require that men have a collared shirt, no jeans, etc. Make sure you check the dress code.

If it's a golf course, then it's probably a country club. Don't those have rules against, you know, jeans? Like collared shirts and no jeans?

Anyone who comes on here with a double ring avatar asking for a tasteful way of mentioning a cash bar has gotta be a troll. Has to be.

I mean a "pseudo wedding" after you're already married? Call it like it is, a vow renewal

Oh my .. I'm getting married at a gold course no heels on the green for photo's I told my girls that had to have flats. Just do a limited bar beer & wine .

Why are people so up in arms about not being able to wear heels? Enjoy giving your feet a break from those death traps. Lol!