No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

If the wedding 'is not about the guests" then don't have any. Problem solved.

A keg before dinner then a cash bar?

I'll stay home, thank you.

Oh god. Why is this still going?

I'm not ready for round 2.

If I received an invite in the mail with these rules, wording, or whatever.....I would pass on the wedding and send a tiny gift.

Celia....the national guard....im laughing so hard at work right now. It's 430am. I literally white girl can't right now.

There sure is a great way to say all of these things! ......

"While children are a blessing and a joy, we respectfully ask that this be an adult only celebration"... problem solved... no kids!

Your guests are there to celebrate you & your future husband... not to see you go broke bc someone couldn't handle their liquor! You can have a separate card with your invitations saying...

"A selection of non- alcoholic beverages will be available. Alcoholic beverages will be available by a cash bar."

For the high heels.... it should be specified on your invitation.

The thread that just won't die....

I hate the R word. That's actually very insulting.

Oh Jennifer. That is about the tackiest set of ideas I have seen recently, among stiff competition.

Get a wedding website and include attire on there, even if alot of the guests are not tech savvy. It's crazy how harsh the people are on here. Not everyone has 50k to drop on a wedding. Do the kind of wedding you can afford. Feed them good food and have alcohol options as necessary. I've been to all kinds of weddings, some that are open bar, some that are beer and wine only (which I don't drink either), some are cash bars. I don't get upset at ANY of those weddings. I'm excited enough to get am invite and unless the wedding is OOT, it's not like I'm spending "so much money" on the wedding and "deserve" to get free booze. I'm happy to celebrate with the new couple and have a nice meal with some cake and dancing. That's just my $0.02 though and I know it's an UO.

This, still??!?!!???

Oh, Jennifer. If a couple "goes broke" over providing liquor for their wedding, they should not be getting married. Your guests are in fact there to celebrate you - at the ceremony. The reception is to thank each and every one of them for taking the time and spending the money to come celebrate you. That includes an alcoholic beverage

For attire, sometimes you can put a dress code. Its your party and you can ABSOLUTELY tell people how to dress.

My FH and I are doing Wine & Beer ONLY, for a wedding of about 150 it's only around $500

Why are we doing this again.

You do not tell your guests how to dress. It's not a high school uniform.

They are adults. My two year old nephew picks his outfits.

You will not go broke if you budget appropriately. End of story.

There is no giving this taste

Okay so a person who reccommended cowboy shoes to their wedding it trying to tell YOU what to do????? do whatever you want to-- don't listen to these bitter bitches.

For my wedding we are buying two kegs & drink tickets for the wedding party, the rest is a cash bar. The last 3 weddings I went to had cash bars & I thought it was just fine. Maybe the midwest is just okay with cash bars? This forum sure does not think so.

Good luck Honey!

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Wow, people are very heated up on here! I know cash bars can be tricky, I unfortunately don't have any advice on how to best phrase that. But I think the kid issue and the shoes can be phrased very tactfully! Re: kids - I've seen couples use phrases like, "We adore your kids but for this night, we want the adults to play!" so that the point is taken but it's said in a positive way. For the shoes - I think it's fine to say something like, "Ladies, I know we all love our heels but we promise you'll be much more comfy in a great pair of flats on our golf course." (Lame, but you get the point.) I wouldn't be offended by any of these statements. I do agree with others, though, that a wedding website is an easy place to put this all.