No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

Sorry, @M. Calling me a retard isn't allowed. But this is for sure my humor for the evening. Troll on, my friend. LOL.

M, you can't call her future ms retard mash, it's highly offensive and name calling. Flagged. You should be banned for that, I guess I'm glad I'm not a mod.

I'm gonna not beat the cash bar dead horse, but did you seriously just use retarded as an insult MM?

That is incredible offensive. Even the vast majority of my 13/14 year old students know better than to use that term.

You can't come on here and call us all bullies for telling you your ideas are rude, and then go and use such a derogatory term. Telling someone cash bars are bad is nowhere near as rude as calling someone a slur.

You can call me whatever you want, if it means my guests are hosted properly. Guess that's the difference between the two of us.

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Hey everyone else wants to insult my intelligence and curse, you all should be flagged to !

M, you're being rude. Cash bars are rude. Name-calling is rude and immature. Go ahead, have your cash bar. No-ones stopping you, but no-one is going to suddenly forget the etiquette and agree with you either. Rock on.

We're allowed to curse. You're showing your own intelligence, and we're allowed to make comments on what we see. As long as we're not name-calling, like you did.

Thank you !

Calling someone such a name is so much more than a violation. That's seriously appalling that your vocabulary is so small that you must use such a term. As someone who has a younger brother with mental disabilities, I don't take that word lightly. So I hope if you do decide to stick around here, that you expand your vocabulary to learn a better insult than to call someone a retard. Pathetic.

If you're thanking me, you might want to actually read my post.

I agree FMM, pathetic. Sad.

Wow, some people are just not mature enough to get married.

@M.M you really need to stop with that attitude.

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Alcohol isn't THAT expensive. Even wine and champagne would be okay. Anything. Don't do cash.

There is nothing wrong with not centering your wedding day around drinking. The wedding should be about the love you and your husband share. Guests shouldn't be there to get drunk and if they are, I would rather them stay home.

It's funny how people are quick to judge and give pretty harsh opinions, but get all defensive themselves when people tell them it's rude/wrong to do other things.

We've all grown up differently, been to different weddings, people don't have to do things a certain way. Kristina, you and your FH know your guests, some might prefer cash bar over no bar, others might think either is still rude. Wine and beer is a good idea, but remember, you can't please everyone.

Since you're not doing a wedding website, include information cards (sometimes called direction cards) with your invitations. Let them know the dress code (casual). Also, consider having flip flops as a favor, in case someone shows up in heels.

Cash bars are tacky. Most venues don't even offer it in the packages they show you and you have to ask to change it to cash bar. I think people would realize that if they need to wear a chunky heel or flats if it says that it's at a golf course. I'm having an adult only reception and only allowing the kids that are in the bridal party to come eat and then they need to come get picked up after dinner. I'm gonna word it nicely somehow on the invitation.

LOL this post is crazy. I only have one comment- we found a liquor store we are getting all of our booze from that will let us return any unopened alcohol- just a thought if OP is really going to look into having beer & wine.

Hate to echo what's been said, but cash bars are tacky and I strongly suggest against it.

I grew up playing golf, and would never assume that I wouldn't be allowed to wear heels to a wedding at a golf course. Are you having your ceremony on a specific hole? I don't see why people would be walking on the greens