No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

Your ceremony is about celebrating you and your FH. The reception is thanking your guests for taking time out of their lives and money out of their accounts to witness the marriage of two individuals. (I guess that's already happened). Usually when you thank your guests, you host them properly with drinks and food.

@leslie most of the ladies here pay for their own weddings out of their pockets and still host their guests properly. You saying that you won't take out a loan for your wedding to accommodate guests tells me you don't have enough budget for your guests.

Some of you are extremely rude! Maybe her budget won't allow for an open bar and she still wants friends and family to enjoy her special day.

This thread is fun. @Janae, if she can't afford an open bar, then she invited too many guests.

Wow, first I need to say this: obviously a cash bar is not ideal, but there's no need to be rude with all these nonconstructive comments. We're having an open bar at our wedding, but I've been to a wedding with a cash bar for people who simply didn't have the extra funds and I still consider that wedding to be the most fun (until my own of course!) I've ever been to because of the company, not the alcohol. Some people even have dry weddings. I would never judge a friend or family member for having a cash bar, I would be more honored that they made room in their budget to invite me instead of cutting the list down. It's much easier to judge people you don't know. The question this bride, who you've all bullied, asked was not "do you think this is a good idea?" it was "how do I spread the information?" I think the best way to spread the information is word of mouth. I think even if you had a wedding site, it wouldn't be appropriate to put this information there... you wouldn't include "open bar" either if that were the case. Adults typically bring money with them when they go out anyway!

The dress code is easy, in the lower right-hand corner of the invite or on a reception card; “black-tie," “cocktail attire" or “casual attire" are all acceptable. Your invitation design will also clue guests in. -This info is straight from The Knot, by the way.

Unfortunately the heels are a bit tricky. Since you don't have a wedding website (maybe consider starting one so the ones who are tech-savvy can help get the word out too!) you'll have to rely on word of mouth to spread the information about the type of venue you have. It should not be included on the invitations. If you had a wedding website you can put in information about the venue and its grounds, but again, you can't directly tell people what to wear. Most heel-wearers know that grass is not ideal terrain to walk on, but it is really their problem if they show up in them anyway. The suggestion about having heel protectors there for the brave (or impractical?) ones is a nice touch.

The best way to address the no kids thing is to simply address your wedding invitations correctly. We're having a kid free wedding and just made sure to use individuals names. We've not had any issues with people asking to bring their children. I also did put a little note on the wedding website and family has helped spread the information through word of mouth.

I hope this helps!

I'm so glad this thread got bumped, I wasn't on much yesterday to see it. I stand by my first post about a cash bar being rude and recommending to save up for beer and wine. In a sense, I think OP took comments with graciousness, but I don't know how many of the constructive comments will be put into play. I look forward to seeing this BAM

@Alyssa, no one bullied her. If a couple doesn't have the extra funds, they SHOULD cut their guest list down and host the wedding they can afford. Sorry, that's just basic etiquette.

Im sorry,ill be the first one to say it. Its your wedding day and you are probably spending $$$. I dont see anything wrong with a cash bar. My wedding reception will have a cash bar. My caterer privide water,juice and tea for free. But if you want alcohol you will have to purchase that. Im not paying for people to get sloppy drunk or trashed at my wedding reception. I also have been to many weddings with a cash bar. Theres nothing wrong with it!

There's nothing wrong with a cash bar

@MM, I can tell you're very considerate given that you took all the time to read the previous comments and determine that you would jump in and be the first to say that there's nothing wrong with cash bars.

One star bumping an old thread? This seems like a very persistent troll.

@MM yes there is. Its rude as fuck.

Oh, here we go again...

Opinions are like a $$holes everyones going to have one! Simple fact is its her wedding day do what makes you happy!!!

Alyssa, most of your etiquette advice is incorrect. Etiquette is not opinion. It is not OK to put a dress code on the invitation, with black tie being Ok only in certain situations. The stuff about no kids was correct. Cash bars are rude, because guests should never pay for anything to subsidize your party. FYI, people do not always carry cash, especially to weddings.

ETA: No-one was bullied, stop it.

If it's her wedding and she's allowed to do whatever she wants, why did she resort to WW for opinions? If people are going to do whatever the hell they want, and their mindset is that it's "their day and they can do whatever they want", why in the fuck would you come here when you can clearly search for these things and see that in the world of etiquette, a cash bar is incredibly rude.

And just because someone posts something you don't agree with, doesn't make them rude. So there's that.

A golf club is not typically a casual environment. There's also no way that a cash bar isn't tacky.

Everyone is entilted to their opinion and just bc someone disagrees doesnt mean it is rude. Your right. But there are alot if unnecessary comments above. Alot of ppl on here are very rude!

Again, M, etiquette is not a matter of opinion. I personally don't care what people do, but i will point out the proper etiquette, to keep people from embarrassing themselves by inadvertently doing something rude. Go ahead, have a cash bar, just know that some of your guests will find it rude. If you don't care, that's on you.

I'm sorry but you are seriously gonna make your guest pay for drinks??

If they want alcohol yes i am. Sodas tea and water is provided. I do not need to pay for ppl to get drunk ! =)