No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

Cash bars are extremely tacky so no there isn't a "tasteful" way to share that with your guests.

Also, none of this should go on your invitations.

As far as no kids, you address the invites to the people you want to come, and on the RSVP card you can indicate "we have reserved # seats in your honor." It's rude to put anything on the invitation about who is not invited. It's also not a good idea to put anything about attire on the invitations. You could maybe do an insert with information on the venue or a link to the venue's website so people know that it's a golf course and get the hint. As far as the cash bar is concerned, it's considered rude and you are going to get a lot of advice to that effect. You shouldn't make your guests pay for drinks. But if you decide to proceed with the cash bar, don't put anything on the invitations about it, just spread that information by word of mouth.

I mean there's no tasteful way to say there's a cash bar because cash bars are rude and tacky.

All the other information can be spread through word of mouth. Also, make sure your invitations are only addressed to the adults.

I don't think there is a way to tell them about the cash bar. Me personally I've come prepared with cash to weddings just to be sure. But that's just me.

Change your plans. Properly host your guests.

Grabbing my popcorn....

Don't have a cash bar. You still have a couple of months to save up a little.... buy wine from Costco or Trader Joe's or Sam's Club, and pick up some beer. Simple but less expensive. Don't make your guests open their wallets on your wedding day, after they've spent so much to attend your wedding and likely give you a gift.

As far as shoes... I'd say create a wedding website. It's helpful to have to direct people to to find information (hotels, transportation, etc.). We indicated it was a backyard wedding on our website and said this: "We want our family and friends to have a fun and easy evening with us and not worry about getting a little dirty! Please wear comfortable clothing and outdoor footwear (cowboy boots and flats recommended!)." If you're strongly opposed to a wedding website, you'll have to just spread the word by mouth to family and friends.

ETA: Now that I'm on WW (I didn't use it prior to our wedding), I realize how bad "getting a little dirty sounds", oops! But my point is, let people know the setting so they can plan accordingly.

Uh oh op. You are in for a wild ride.

Just here for the comments on the cash bar...

Nope, there is not a tasteful way to say something so tacky. Sorry OP - but you can put lipstick on a pig, still gonna look like a pig.

This is going to be good.

Anyways....

No kids - People will know by word of mouth and how you address the invitation. Example: Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith

Casual dress - You cannot tell adults how to dress.

No heels - Again, cannot tell adults how to dress.

Cash bar - extremely rude. Reconsider.

Listen... I would stay away from the cash bar and maybe see about a consumption bar.

However, if you are dead set on having a cash bar, there is no way to word it on the invite.

Word of mouth should be used to convey all the information you want your guests to know.

Ok..but seriously please at least provide beer and wine.

Best of Luck.

Yes. Cash bar is so rude. I just went to a wedding where there was a cash bar- I would never say anything to the bride/groom about how rude it is, just seriously thought it was rude and just took $ out of the card to buy me a $8 glass of wine. Moral of the story-if you have people say they're ok with it-they're just trying to be polite.

We are advising our guests through our website and word of mouth that the seating for the ceremony is on grass for those who are considering heels. I was at a wedding last year that did not mention this and my heels took a beating.

Cash bars are really rude, please host the bar for your guests. If money is an issue you should cut in other places but please dont make your guests pay for their drinks.

Spread by word of mouth that heels are not allowed on the golf course and that children are not going to be accommodated. Don't put it on invitation

Well, thanks guys for all the feed back! Lol, guess I opened a can of worms. Half of our families are of the back woods mindset with little self control and we will not pay for our uncles to get sloppydrunk and unruly. The other half are conservatives that don't drink. We are however providing an open non-alcoholic beverage "bar." I don't want guests paying for a pepsi! Just needed to throw that out there...

You shouldn't want guests paying for anything.

If most people don't drink then you should have a consumption bar (you only pay for what is consumed) that way that the people who do drink will have the option to. Also, people getting unruly? Why are they even invited then?

This is all bad, okay? I think it would be good to let people know that you're going to be on grass so they can prepare, but the cash bar thing has to go. It's RAF.

Honestly, I read your title and I thought it was a joke post.

"Leave your kids at home for an evening in your jeans to watch us get married. Don't forget cash if you want to drink, we won't be paying for our guests." How about that?