No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

Oh, then I'm mistaken. You always treat your guests poorly.

Have the course hold the ceremony in a different space. Heels can be worn on tee boxes.

Run a tab at the bar and pay for it at the end of the night. Shouldn't be much since you claim your guests don't drink much.

Yikes...

@Kristina, it doesn't matter what your justifications are, honestly. What it comes down to is you're being cheap. Your guests are taking time out of their busy lives to spend the day with you and your FH. The least you can do, after inviting them to be there, and having them get up, dress up, and show up (likely with gifts) is to host them with wine and beer.

It's not that they "can't deal without it for a single night", it's that you are acting self centered, judgmental and entitled because you don't value them enough to provide alcohol.

I do agree you should make a website. Include photos of the green. Indicate that there's a high school DJ. There's probably no dance floor? Is it a potluck? Put as much information as you can on there so that people have a heads up that your wedding will be cheap and tacky, and that you are only inviting them because you feel entitled to their generous gifts.

That way people with class won't make the mistake of accidentally RSVPing "yes".

Don't forget to make a GoFundMe to pay for your honeymoon.

I like how you slid cash bar in there at the end. Sneaky but nah. Host your guests properly.

"Hi everyone! Please pay for a sitter and leave your kids at home while we impose our values on you. No need to dress up for the experience."

@Kristina- your event doesn't fit your venue my dear. Please tell me you aren't wearing a ball gown

You guys are so much fun... Thanks for providing entertainment on a boring Thursday morning. It's funny to see how differently people are raised. A casual, kid free get together is super appreciated by our families... We eloped in October and are only having a reception to appease our parents. We asked that people don't bring gifts, just themselves to have dinner and do some dancing. I asked the question because we are sending out traditional invites and just wanted to let people know it's laid back... Plus the heels rule isn't mine, it's the golf course. Ps. No honeymoon.

Never mind what I just wrote, I just read your update above. There's no point.

Anyone else wondering why OP is trying to dictate what footwear her guests can wear? Let adults be adults. We know how to dress ourselves, FFS. Also, no cash bar. Rude. Rude rude rude. You're being a Rude Rudy. Stahp it.

@Kristina- but.... Is the celebration on the golf course or inside?

Do you have a plan b if so?

On the course, but inside is available for plan b.

Chose it for views and good food. Also for the bathrooms! I don't do porta-potties. (sp?)

Friendors too! Fun

Oh ok. So your guests will enjoy looking out at the views while paying $10 for their drink. Worth it.

Dress codes and cash bars not only belong anywhere in real life they CERTAINLY do not belong on the invite.

There is no way a golf course is going to let you have dancing ON THE COURSE. NO way in hell. Unless it's a shitty par 3 beginner course that isn't kept up at all.

Ok... Is their enough room inside to just host your celebration of marriage in there?

ETA: I got married at a golf club. The ceremony was supposed to be at the waterfall but rain. However, they also told us no heels on the greens but that was just a warning regarding walking across the greens to get spots for picture.

OMG, it gets worse, just when you think it couldn't... a kid DJ, DIY flowers and a high school friend for photos.

Yep. Can't wait for the BAM.

Yepper. Our list is about 50 under their recommended amount of people with dance floor. And they have one of those floors like tent rental places they put up under the tent. Don't want chair legs on the green either! The friend has her own photography business, have you seen some wood flowers(?!) and not super sold on the dj just yet. He's an option.