No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

@Kristina, no one has a problem with the fact that your event is intended to be a) casual or b) kid free. But there are tactful ways to communicate those two facts. That's one thing. You got some really good answers on those questions. If you search WW you'll get others.

The heels rule, agreed- should be communicated. But there's not a polite way to add that to your invitations.

And the cash bar thing....it doesn't matter if you're having a vow renewal for your parents' sake. You still need to host properly.

Just realized the date. I'm calling BINGO.

Tents on the greens???

Are you sure it's on the actual greens or just a grassy part near the greens? I imagine a good golf course have an underground sprinkler system that they wouldn't want accidentally destroyed.

So you're already married? This would be a vow renewal ceremony. And this isn't a wedding reception. Just host a party at someone's house. How will you have dancing on a golf course green?

Anyone ever notice that so many double rings with bad plans come back and try to act all breezy? Like, "thanks for the entertainment!" "this was fun, but I refuse to admit I'm wrong!" Like that awkward laugh a coworker does to make you think their weird/inappropriate comment was just a joke...

That is not the way golf courses work.

My brother has been to rehab 3 times, my family barely drinks, and FH's family barely drinks. But we are having an open bar so that our friends can drink all they want, our dads can have their once a year beer, and the cousins can get as wine drunk as they want. My bartender will cut my brother off, since that's his job. I love my guests and want them to have a great time, and great times include at least beer and wine.

We are getting married on the front yard of a mountain lodge. We say on our wedding website that we are getting married on the yard, and there is a picture of alllllll dat grass. Most people will figure it out.

Friday in August toward the end of the season....

Apparently I was wrong about wanting to include the info on the invite. I do remember the event coordinator mentioning no heels on the 18th for the quick vow ceremony. The tent could totally be in the lawn and not the "green." That's all I got. I don't know about closing the course for a wedding at 4pm Saturday... It was a sincere question, I'm thankful for the kind people who responded truthfully, but not harshly.

Why is there a vow ceremony? Please don't tell us this is a sham wedding.

O boy

My grandmother and great aunt and his grandfather were very upset they didn't see us exchange vows, and that the ceremony wasn't performed by a memeber of the clergy. Means a vow exchange with a pastor.

She said they already eloped.

Unless people have a really good reason to elope (which there are many) then hold reception later on, I really don't like these. You chose to elope, forgoing the whole theatrics of a wedding. I don't get it. You don't even want to provide drinks for your guests, why bother?

@Kristina, will you be wearing a bridal gown and will you have a BP as well?

I guess you are adamant on bad hosting. I'd appreciate knowing whatever way, so I'd have the option of RSVPing no,

This is a tough subject to get positive feed back. Being the event is at a golf course would make me think I was going to a luxury event. If the invite said casual I would think a sundress still with heels because it would be at a golf course. Second I have never been to a cash bar at a golf course/country club. I would never assume I should bring money to an event at a place like that. These two subjects I would never associate with a golf course.

Word of mouth is the best way to distribute these sort of things! They aren't something you would put on an invite.

Thanks for your feed back Kristin D. Constructive critism is always appreciated... And that's why I thought to include "be comfortable and casual!" on the invite. Bad idea... For real though, I've been to many weddings and only once has there an open bar (and that was limited to cocktail hour) cash bar everywhere else... I truly didn't think it was that big of a deal.

I missed that this was a fake wedding. Ugh. Better and better.

@Kristina, I'm always amazed when I see comments from people claiming that cash bars are normal in their area. Now you know.