No kids, casual dress, no heels and cash bar...

Now I know. I'm gonna look into the beer and wine option.

I've seen beach weddings where the bride and groom left baskets of flip flops for guests to use as needed. Perhaps you could do something similar. The "no heel" rule isn't unheard of around here as most of the venues are either barns, golf courses, or horse racing tracks. As a guest, I would definitely want a heads up though.

Cash bars suck.

Oh no....

I second CuteNicknames question. Will you be in a ball gown and have Bridal Party?

4pm on a Saturday? Your avatar says your wedding is the 25th, which is a Friday...

ETA spelling

Sundress and only my sister and his brother. And the flip flops are a great idea.

And I will fix the date. It is supposed to be Saturday the 26th.

I have the same issue with drinkers in my family, well both sides really. The amount of alcohol they consume doesn't make them any less welcomed or wanted, they just get too rowdy when we're celebrating. I'm not a big fan of cash bars but we considered doing the same. We ended up going with just beer and wine instead of hard liquor, limiting the time the bar is serving will help limit the lushes too. I've also heard people put it this way, when it's my birthday my guests buy ME drinks at the bar not the other way around. Not exactly the same but they're there to celebrate you at the end of the day, cash bar, no bar or open bar.

Based on the title of this thread, I thought it was going to be making fun of another bride for doing these things...

Flip flops are a super idea! When you ask about beer and wine, be sure to find out about consumption pricing. If much of your crowd doesn't drink, paying by the beer or by the glass could be cost effective.

A good bartender will not serve drunk guests, so I don't think you need to worry too much about that. I'd actually worry more with an advertised cash bar. When people know there's going to be a cash bar, they're more likely to stash liquor in their suits/cars/purses. That could get ugly.

I think this post is a troll post

Like I said and was echoed, your event doesn't match your venue.

I hope you look into your attire "requests", bar and do decide to go with a beer and wine or consumption bar.

Wait are you getting married ON the green? I've worn heels to several receptions at golf courses and you're never actually on the green.

She said we could do the vow exchange on the 18th hole. But no heels... I'm really sure I'm not a troll, just an apparently "very rude" bride.

Are you a member of the golf/country club? Do they know you're asking your guests to dress in casual attire? I'd be careful throwing around the word casual at a place that more than likely has a dress code that requires tucked in collared shirts, no jeans, etc.

While I do think all of that is rude ... I have noticed things ... alot of East Coast brides here ... I was on facebook groups (I since left because it was a headache ) .. but people have diffrent etiquette threw out the country (again I'm not 100% sure this is true just noticed that southern brides seem to be more open to a cash bar concept ) ... you should host properly .. I am making my own centerpeices with the help of my planner and some very creative family members) , I'm not having a limo. Sometimes your going to have to cut things out !! You need to address the dress code some way ... I always wear heels to weddings , showers , party's, holidays lol ..

Also most golf course / country clubs are very nice ... which means people will dress nice ... unless it's at miniature golf course

Haha. Hahaha.

Let people know through word of mouth and your website that it's a cash bar. Since you normally don't provide alcohol and your crowd doesn't really drink, they probably won't be expecting booze - you know your guests better than we do. To be honest, if I had to choose between cash bar and no bar, I'd prefer cash.

I got married at a country club that had a strict no jeans dress code. I put it on my wedding website. Also, I think you should go to old navy and get some flip flops just in case.