No kids at my wedding, not even newborns

So much eye-roll right now.

I have so many issues with this, most of them have been addressed. So I'm skipping to the common sense part. They are pregnant now. Your wedding is a year and 3 months away. I'm going to assume, even in their early stages of pregnancy, they're probably due at the latest in December. These kids will be almost a year old, if not older, by then. These are not infants. Let parents make these decisions. And it's incredibly rude to say "I care for them so much but I don't care if they don't come"

If they are "very important people", I would call them each personally and discuss it.

Okay, why are you arguing about semantics here? Who cares if it's a toddler or a newborn? It's irrelevant. I don't think it reads like that at all, sorry you read it that way. Don't attack me because you don't agree. But i think there's no reason for you to exhibit nasty behavior. If you thought you were entitled to bring your toddler or child to an adults only affair, I think the rude one is you-not the op. Not all people love your children being children as much as you. So save me the entitled parent routine, "if my kid isn't invited, then you must not be worth my time and I'll cut you out from my life." It's a wedding, not a birthday BBQ. A wedding is a formal planned event and a child is not invited. It is literally that simple. You break that rule, you are no longer welcome at said event. Doesn't mean you don't love both the guest or the child.

How hard is it to say, id prefer to not have children at my wedding? That's literally all you have to do. And if you showed up with your kid, I'd ask you to leave. It is her event and it should not be hijacked by inconsiderate people.

Cassidy, no one is saying she can't have an adult only wedding. This issue a lot of us had was how she phrased it. It was also very contradicting. She said they're very important to her, but then states she won't be upset if they couldn't come. Which signifies, they're not that important. Most moms with newborns would not go to a wedding, or think about taking their newborn to a wedding.

Also, if I genuinely had no idea it was an adults only wedding, and I came in from out of town and was turned away, that would be, well I'd be speechless in all honesty. You're acting like parents are the rudest people, and kids are terrible. Smh.. most parents aren't going to just show up with their kids. Again she's asking and worrying way too soon for that.

1. Don't put that on the invite!

2.Address invite specifically to individuals not families

3. Feel free to put something on your website about this.

4. DONT BACK DOWN! If you let some people's kids come but not others expect feelings to be hurt all over the place...

I actually got invited to a wedding when my younger daughter was 4 months old. It was also no one under 18 except bride and grooms families. On top of rust my fiance was not invited because they only invited people they knew well. I ended up not being able to go because I was breastfeeding and she never took a bottle. The bride understood and I was upset to miss it. At the same point I understood what she wanted and followed it. Yes we are still friends to this day. So this leads me to the fact you need to make it known no children and if they are able to come they will.

You could always hire someone you know very well for the children of the OOT guests. Pay for a sitter and a hotel room with some pizza and that way the kids can be occupied until the parents are ready to leave.

HIsBeauty, it sounds like you misunderstood me. All I said it is, not that she wouldn't be upset, but she'd understand. Yes they're important to her, but yes, she understands if they cannot make it due to her request. While most moms with newborns would not bring their baby, some rude, inconsiderate, naive ones will. Some parents are rude, and rude people never think they're rude. Sometimes kids are tyrants. Sometimes they're not. If you don't want to submit to the request, decline. That's it

There's a huge difference between a toddler and a newborn. My wedding is adults only. I dislike children.

Exceptions will be made for any mothers with newborns (idfk, under 3 months ish ?)

However, children age 6-12 months plus and above are a hard no for me.

Toddlers can be assholes. Infants sleep and eat.

Newborns at a wedding is kind of weird. a good excuse to have grandma baby sit and have moma and dad have a night to themselves.

Lap babies will not do anything to u.

Soon to be mrs, but cry! Lol

Hey guess what, when a mom has a baby, she is totally capable of leaving it with someone for a little bit. Just saying. A woman is not incapable of leaving her baby for a few hours.

To each is own. If you don't want kids there then you make sure you address any STDs and the invites properly.

It's really obvious here who has never been around a baby. You cannot leave a small baby or infant at home or with grandma.

They are newborns...that being said, your not feeding them or having to buy drinks.

If i were a mom i would much rather decline than leave my baby with a sitter just to attend a wedding that is showing no appreciation of my presence.

If you're okay with them not attending because they either 1) are breast feeding and need their kid around at all times or 2) don't feel comfortable with a sitter and their young kid then move on. It's your choice, but know you could make some enemies this way.

Although the wording may seem harsh, I totally agree. I'm a teacher sooo the last thing I want to hear on my wedding day is kids crying. Sorry not sorry. Your friend should only bring who is written on the invite. No need to specifically say not to bring the kids.