No kids at my wedding, not even newborns

I said exclusively. I know a guest of mine who is still breastfeeding her three year old, the toddler doesn't get an invite because of this.

There's a big difference in a mom breastfeeding a 4 month old versus a 3 year old, but under your rule the 4-month-old wouldn't be invited. Talk about arbitrary.

If your wedding date is correct, your friends aren't even pregnant yet. I don't see why this is an issue. You address the invite to your friend and spouse and make a notation on their invite "we have reserved two seats for you." Your attitude is terrible though. Your friends would understand; there's nothing wrong with an adults wedding. Anyone I've invited to my wedding, I would absolutely be bummed if they couldn't attend. Or I wouldn't be inviting them. My cousin will have a nine month old. She's local but not comfortable leaving her with anyone as her family will be at the wedding. She asked if she could bring the baby to the wedding with a promise to step out if she gets fussy. She and the babe are in.

You say they are very important people but you're fine with them not being there. I think this whole thing is kinda rude. Just address their envelope to the couple only but don't expect them to attend.

These two people who are "very important" to you have children. These children are A PART of your "very important" people. I'd be completely offended if I were invited but parts of ME weren't. I honestly don't understand these "adult weddings." Are strippers making an appearance?!

I have 3 kids... and this is what I did on my invitations. My wedding is starts at 5 and is finished at 10ish. It's perfectly acceptable to have a kid free wedding.

Kaity&Franck, your invitation is rude and not something others should be following as an example.

'I'd be completely offended if I were invited but parts of ME weren't,'

Then stay home with your extensions.

You never put "adults only'' on an invite. No one has ever said it wasn't fine to have an adults only wedding. It's in the deployment of the invitation, honestly.

And that's not the way

@Celia there seem to always be a few on here that are against it. Candy for instance.

Sarah the OP already clarified in the comments that these guests in question are pregnant now, so these babies won't even be newborns at the time of her wedding. In fact, they could be a year old or more (clearly the OP does not know the definition of newborn).

We are having a mostly kid free wedding with the exception of flower girl and ring bearer. However, FH's sister is having a baby within the next 2 weeks and my bridesmaid has a 2 month old. I would never tell them they could not bring their newborn. I also would be offended if I was told they would rather me stay home than bring my newborn.

I am actually laughing over the comments that people would end a friendship if they were asked not to bring their newborn.

A parent knows when and where to bring their child. Grocery shopping, that might be okay. Going to let's say a black tie event at an art museum for example, not likely. More times than not, parents use weddings as a "date night" meaning they will not bring their child.

What is the problem with them bringing their child in the first place? You think they are going to puke and poo all over the place and ruin your wedding?

@Natalie, I realize it's very difficult for you to comprehend this, but you don't get to be in charge of what offends other people. She has no right to be offended? Says you? Your opinion is not fact. It's opinion and it is, in no way, shape, or form universal, so knock it off with telling people what they do and don't have a "right" to be offended by.

I think you all are missing the point. The op is likely my sister and I have a cousin who is pregnant. She is a doll and we love her . She is not suggesting that she write no children anywhere. I don't think it sounds entitled at all, what sounds entitled is the fact that someone might assume they could bring their newborn baby to the wedding. Chill. No where did she say she'd address this issue by saying no children. I think it is rude to assume in every way that your child is invited anywhere you are. The condescending tone is alarming in this post thread and not appreciated. It is her wedding, not yours. So just to clarify I don't think the op said anywhere she would tell anyone to decline because they had their baby. She just thought it was entitled and rude to assume they could just bring their child. Chill.

ALC you most certainly do not. You can love someone very much without wanting their little one there .

Candy l, some parents are rude and ignorant and while we love them, do not have good judgement where it is acceptable to bring a child.

The op is likely your sister Cassidy?

@cassidy her op says "I am fine with them not attending if it means them having to bring their newborn"

That very much reads as I would prefer them not to come to them bringing their child and reads very different than is a kid free wedding okay

That's very different than just not wanting kids at the wedding and either your sister if the OP has newborns and toddlers confused or is able to predict with incredible accuracy when someone will get pregnant

ETA: in fact later on it says "I'd prefer they decline than bring their infant." Doesn't sound like someone she particularly holds dear to me.