No kids at my wedding, not even newborns

@Elizabeth. I NEVER said anyone was going across the country, so moot point with my post, As I stated earlier, I was responding to someone who said the no mother would leave their newborn (no specification of the distance).

Okay, 'enough said on that post. ;-)

I think OP is asking HOW to get the message across. And given that at least one responder said, well what would happen if I brought my newborn anyway? and others said, well they don't take up seats (which may not be true, venue may insist on a place for baby carrier, and will count toward fire limit).

In addition to the being careful with invites, I would say, discuss with both MOG and MOB. Make certain they understand -- no babies, no newborn, no one under 18. If you know of any relative with baby, reiterate with appropriate mom. Make certain all members of the WP know.

If you get RSVPs from anyone with kids, call them, and say, we really appreciate your coming, as we know it meant you had to get a sitter. Then be quiet. If they are quiet. give them chance to speak first. Be prepared for whining etc. Tell them, no kids.

Have ushers at wedding (or ask groonsmen to act as such) or security. Tell them if anyone comes with a baby, tell the person, you will need to sit in the back, and if baby cries, you will need to leave the room immediately. Have back up plan at reception, put them at table in area where they wont bother others.

To me a wedding is a family event and for you to exclude children is kinda harsh, i know everyone has their own way of doing things i just feel that you are kinda forgetting the meaning of saying I Do before God, Family, and friends do you not like kids they are so adorable so you are not having a ring bearer or flower girls just asking #forafriend

@First Came Love....

1) Not everyone is religious, therefor God has nothing to do with everyones weddings.

2) Not everyone thinks children are adorable.

3) Not every occasion is kid friendly, and not every wedding is kid friendly

4) Why are some posters essentially shoving kids down the throats of those who do not want kids at their weddings?

I do not have a horse in this race...those are just my personal thoughts.

Edit: Typo

First Came- yep. NO RB or FG.

Probably also an UO, but I am not a fan of weddings that say they are adult only then have a FG and RB. Like you either want kids or you don't. I don't understand making any exceptions on that. No one needs a freaking flower girl. So if you want an adult only wedding, WHY are you putting children in your WP?

And no, I do not think they are adorable. And I am no less married because I said my vows without the presence of my sister's fiance's kid or my cousin's kid or my husband's nephew.

Well actually im not shoving kids on no one and God is a major part in a wedding well suppose to be but for some that is not religious do not know that i actually was asking was their children in the wedding and how do that work cause LIKE I SAID people are actually missing the whole meaning of a wedding so Ms Kathy thank you for your comment on my post but just like you have your opinion i have mine and because I am a respectable person i will keep it moving have a bless day!

First Came- Welcome to WW. Where we all know what "have a blessed day" actually means.

You are fooling no one.

Heh, Beutivant, so true!

@Beutivant no not saying you are less married dont know you just speaking my mind like everyone else we all have our own opinions and i was just giving mine thats all

@fallinthegarden is that what you thought I meant by that wow.....good day this is not the place for me at all cause i didnt mean that at all

*calm

If i stepped on anyone toes i do apologize i thought we all was just discussing a topic didnt know all this was going on i will not be a part of all this hatred i was advise to get on this forum for advise i didnt know all this was going on i am out good day to all or is that a meaning for something else i dont know what to or not to say lol

Sorry Vicki i know how to spell it i graduated college i just spelled it like that for entertainment purpose wow....really?

Not sure how it's entertaining to spell things incorrectly on purpose, but whatever.

There's no hatred on this forum. Most people are here to be helpful and give advice and share experiences, not to be judgmental. Your comments reek of judgment for those who are non-religious or are having a child-free wedding.

Thank you Kathy cause it was a sincere apology

@First CameLove. Cool and it is appreciated. :-)

This thread makes me wonder what kind of people brides and grooms think their friends are. Like they think they require multiple inserts to instruct their guests that children aren't invited, or that they're so positive that no one would remove a screaming baby, or that people are going to just be wild animals running around with no regard for anyone else. If you think that your guests are so incompetent that they can't make childcare arrangements or dress themselves properly or whatever else that brides spend so much time worrying about then reevaluate yourself and/or your friendships.

If you don't want my children there, I 100% respect that (and I've made it clear on many threads and multiple times on this one that I don't even want to bring my kids, and I don't think that weddings are appropriate for children, especially "traditional" evening ones) but for goodness sakes if you think so little of me as a person/friend/parent that you don't think I can properly take care of my child at your event, then don't invite me because you obviously don't think very much of me if you think I would let any of that happen.

MAMW , the reasons some of us say this... is because many parents do not make that choice that you think most parents would make.

I can't like @MAMW's post enough at the end of the day it's about trusting the people in your life to make adult decisions and if you can't trust someone's decisions on how to attend your wedding you need to reevaluate if that person needs an invite or if you've reached unreasonable expectations about what the wedding is really about.

There is a bigger picture here though. One crying baby being taken out is not going to disturb the ceremony. If your guest list will mean inviting many babies and toddlers then absolutely that could disrupt the ceremony whether they're taken out immediately or not.