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Keep or Cancel?

Lynnie, on July 16, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Community Conversations 44

This week we want to know which popular wedding traditions you're still into, and which ones you're ready to say goodbye to!! 👋 Photo by Rebecca Carpenter Photography Click on each discussion linked below and tell us if you want to keep or cancel the tradition: Sleeping Apart the Night Before the...

This week we want to know which popular wedding traditions you're still into, and which ones you're ready to say goodbye to!! 👋


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Photo by Rebecca Carpenter Photography


Click on each discussion linked below and tell us if you want to keep or cancel the tradition:

Sleeping Apart the Night Before the Wedding

Matching Bridesmaids Dresses

"Here Comes The Bride"

Traditional Wedding Vows

Parent Dances

Reception Speeches

Clinking for Kisses

Bouquet Toss

Garter Toss

Cake Smash

44 Comments

  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Cancel ALL of them… Make the wedding original and specific to the bride and groom, instead of something that your guests haven’t already seen/heard many times before. #Snooze 😴

    The only tradition on the list that I even like are the “parent dances” ( but I think there are also more unique ways to acknowledge them as well).
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  • Mareah
    Beginner September 2019
    Mareah ·
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    We’re only doing the bouquet toss and speeches - my bouquet is black and red roses with a skull head ❤️ Can’t wait !!
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  • Amber
    Savvy October 2020
    Amber ·
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    He is going a mix of grey's graphite and mercury. we also have very few hints of orange (fall color like a sunset orange) to add in as well

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  • Elisa
    Beginner October 2019
    Elisa ·
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    I’m keeping traditional wedding vows and that’s it . Everything else gets tossed !
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  • L
    Beginner October 2020
    Laura ·
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    We’re not keeping any of these except (short) reception speeches. We’re not even having a cake or a bridal party. We just want the day to be about us and not about some schedule of odd traditions.
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  • S
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Sabrina ·
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    I'm pretty much not doing any of it.
    No wedding party
    Doing a different song for down the aisle
    Writing our own vows
    Only doing father daughter dance ( his mother passed a long time ago and we have 2 daughters together)
    If they want to do speeches go for it but I'm not asking anyone to
    I dont really think we will do clinking for kisses (gets annoying after awhile plus we've been together for 5 years and never been big on tons of pda) and cups are plastic so not sure if you can hear it
    Considering on not doing bouquet or garter toss theres gonna be a lot of kids and my bouquet is expensive as it is
    And I also am paying a lot of money for my make up so no cake smash 😂
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  • S
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    Wow - I was cancel for all but 2. I thought I was being a little more traditional than that, but guess not. I really only am doing the father-daughter dance and the speeches, but both things will be modified so do they even count? Fun topic!

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  • Lauren
    Beginner August 2020
    Lauren ·
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    I love all of these traditions besides "Here comes the bride". I might let my bridesmaids pick their own dress as long as it goes with the color scheme. My fiance and I also discussed a twist to the cake smash. His parents turned and smashed it into the MOH and best man's face which we might do because we're always up for some fun!
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  • Megan
    Beginner September 2019
    Megan ·
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    We're not big on traditional, which can be hard for the fh's father. We were going to axe the garter toss and the bouquet throw but his dad kept pushing because "people expect it, its tradition ". So we put them back in. I'll be removing the garter from fh's leg to "killer queen" and then he'll throw the bouquet to "Another one bites the dust". I hope to have a bridesmaid get a picture of his dad's face 😂
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  • Krysta
    Devoted September 2019
    Krysta ·
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    Keeping everything except Garter Toss & Bouquet Toss.

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  • C
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Carly ·
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    We pretty much aren’t doing any traditions with the exception of the cake smash, first dance, and parent dances. It’s a hard pass on the garter toss, having my hubby to be up in my dress in front of our entire family (200 people) is not necessarily something I want to happen on my wedding day. I think that most traditions are overrated
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  • Joan
    Just Said Yes August 2019
    Joan ·
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    My fiancé and I are an older couple and are having a smaller wedding but here's what we're doing:

    Keeping
    Traditional Wedding Vows

    First Dance
    Reception Speeches
    Clinking Glasses
    Not seeing each other the day of the wedding


    Not Keeping
    Bouquet Toss
    Garter Toss
    Here comes the bride
    Cheesy Reception Songs (Hokey Pokey, Chicken Dance, etc)

    Cake smash




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  • Christal
    Dedicated December 2020
    Christal ·
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    Keep — grey works well with orange
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  • Christal
    Dedicated December 2020
    Christal ·
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    Cancel
    Here comes the bride
    clinking for kisses

    keeping
    bouquet toss and garter throw
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  • hopingwaiting
    Savvy May 2020
    hopingwaiting ·
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    I wish we would bring back the "get-away" dress. I know I'll be wearing one at the nights end.

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  • Cheryl
    Expert November 2020
    Cheryl ·
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    Your wedding sounds so fun!
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  • Alisha
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Alisha ·
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    I want to just do the normal no cake facing smashing
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  • Kaira
    Savvy December 2019
    Kaira ·
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    We’re getting rid of the garter game, it just makes us somewhat uncomfortable. Walking down the aisle with a man or anyone is out— im going up on my ownand my mom is giving me away, and she will stand when they ask the question ( my father passed from cancer when i was 15, and parents were divorced. He was selfish, prioritized golf or work over his daughters and when he learned he was dying he tried making amends in his own way.) We are also ditching some other traditions that my mom knows about but isnt really common knowledge anymore. We want to handfast in our ceremony and maybe plant a tree together. Also we feed eachother cake, no smashing— spending money on my makeup and I would prefer bot to ruin it. Smiley smile
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  • Private User
    Beginner January 2019
    Private User ·
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    I liked answering all the questions. A similar one with the newest trends would be fun! For example the motorcycle jacket in the photo would be a good topic!
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  • Kayla
    Dedicated April 2021
    Kayla ·
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    I love this discussion!

    Keeping:
    sleeping apart the night before, reception speeches, parent dances
    Traditional wedding vows

    Tossing:
    bouquet toss (looking for a fun alternative)
    garter toss


    Still thinking about “Here Comes the Bride” and Cake Smash..
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