Keep or Cancel?

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What a fun topic can't wait to see everyone's answers

The only traditions I’m keeping are the sleeping apart the night before, parent dances, reception speeches and bridesmaids dress with the same colors, but they can choose their own style

I will keep everything except for the clinking for kisses and I like the idea here comes the bride but I prefer to play a different song when the bride walks down the aisle. Everything else I will keep

I would keep everything except the clinking for kisses and here comes the bride. I prefer to use a different song for when the bride is walking down the aisle.

We're not doing the parent dances, "Here comes the bride", nor the cake smash (possibly because I'm tempted to smash cake in his face lol). I'm on the fence about our vows, but we have a while to figure it out.

I’m keeping everything but the here comes the bride, wedding vows, matching dresses. And doing the tradition of jumping the broom. We will most likely be writing four own vows because we r both poets. The parent dance is a toss up cuz we r also dancers and may perform. Idk not sure I still have 21 months to go

View Quoted Comment I’m with the same colors but different styles because all my bridesmaids are not the same size and I have my maid of honor and matron of honor wearing different colors from the bridesmaids

I believe we are keeping everything but the clinking for kisses and cake smash (I was never a fan, besides as much as we pay for our wedding dresses, I don't want the chance to mess it up!)

We even are trying to figure out how to pull off the day off. because we are doing our own decorations and we set up at least two hours before the wedding. but we aren't going to be seeing each other so we are going to be going through our coordinator to help get our reception space decorated. (I'm going to show her how we would like it set up, I leave and then he comes in to help her set up the rest)

As for that. I know by tradition the Groom doesn't see the Bride till the time of the Ceremony, but is calling or texting (new day and age) still ok? what are your thoughts??

Also Brides Maids Dresses, I picked out two styles, same material and same color except for my MOH,. she will wear a different color (same color family though) like my maids will be in Wisteria and my MOH in Regency purple. and I think the Mother of the bride/groom in a plum.

Same thing with the guys, all same color, my Groom in a darker suit then them and the fathers in something similar to the Groom, but a different vest color (more like the color he picked out than mine)

Also for our vows, we are adding a handfasting ceremony along with written/traditional vows.

Keep. However, not just for single women to catch. Our family tradition is for all women to try to catch. The woman to catch will have a great change of the next year (e.g., amazing first date, engagement, marriage, baby).

Love this!

Keep:

- Sleeping apart the night before, parent dances, reception speeches

Toss:

- Traditional wedding vows, "Here comes the bride", garter toss

Still thinking:

- matching bridesmaid dresses, clinking for kisses, bouquet toss, cake smash

My fiancé and I are not religious. We are pretty traditional people though and are keeping a few traditions just not all.

Keeping
Matching Bridesmaid Dresses (I am a little OCD, I need symmetry)
First Dances
Reception Speeches
Clinking Glasses

Not Keeping
Bouquet Toss
Garter Toss
Here comes the bride
Traditional Wedding Vows
Cheesy Reception Songs (Hokey Pokey, Chicken Dance, etc)

Not sure yet
Cake smash (I hope he doesn’t do this)
Sleeping the night before

So Far..

We are keeping: Sleeping Apart the Night Before the Wedding, Traditional Wedding Vows Parent Dances, Reception Speeches

We are canceling: "Here Comes The Bride", Clinking for Kisses, Bouquet Toss, Garter Toss & Cake Smash

Matching bridesmaid dresses don't apply because I am only having a MOH.

View Quoted Comment Hey Heidi!
I don’t want to have any of the “cheesy” songs either; but considering the fact that we won’t actually have a dance floor at our wedding, I kind of like the idea of doing something like a konga-line through around the venue (hahahaha). In addition, I always had fun doing those at other people’s weddings! I can imagine a lot of silly pictures, too. So, for right now we’re refraining from including any music like that- but we’re planning to have a lot of feel-good, kind of jazzy music so that people can dance when the feeling comes to them!
Aubrianna & Campbell

View Quoted Comment Hi Aubrianna!

I’m indifferent to them...when people are drinking and having fun, I am all for letting them just have fun even if it is silly. My fiancé and some family that are strongly against them. I assume people will lighten up with booze 😂

View Quoted Comment Heide,
I was thinking the same thing! I’m sure that even my “stuffy” great aunts would have fun doing the chicken dance after a few glasses of wine!
Aubrianna & Campbell

This was my favorite forum discussion!! Thank you!!

I especially like the toast portion because you get to hear how your family really feels about you, your spouse and the love they feel for you that you might not otherwise know. The cake smashing in the face is something that I feel takes away from the momentous occasion.

View Quoted Comment Hi, Amber -

You and I have similar colors— mine is plum, lavender and orchid. What color will the groom wear? I still have not decided on that.

Only keeping the tradition of matching bridesmaids other than that, we are not traditional and not doing any of the speeches unless someone decides they want too, no one is expected too, no garter/bouquet toss (not many single people attending) parent dances (my dad is deceased), we will prob sleep in bed the night before as we own a house already, if people want to clink their glasses I cannot stop them so go ahead lol! , no cake smash we are doing a more elegant cake cutting lol, I am coming down the aisle to bittersweet symphony on violin, and lastly we are writing our vows semi traditional but not really.