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Keep or Cancel: Sleeping apart the night before the wedding?

Lynnie, on July 16, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Community Conversations 3 246
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Will you be keeping with tradition and spending the night before your wedding sleeping separately? Or are you ready to cancel this old tradition?

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Keep or Cancel: Sleeping apart the night before the wedding? 1

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  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    Cancel. It’s so much more convenient to just stay at home and there’s no real reason to stay apart.
  • Kelsey
    Super September 2020
    Kelsey ·

    Keep. We have a complimentary bridal suite for 2 nights from our venue. We might as well use it. I'm going to stay there since my girls and I will be using it to get ready in, along with doing our hair and makeup the next morning. My FH will be staying at our apartment the night before with his groomsmen.

  • Melle
    Master June 2019
    Melle ·
    Cancel. We did everything together and I'm not superstitious or anything.
  • Allie
    Rockstar August 2019
    Allie ·

    Cancel! We would never choose to spend a night apart if we didn't have to.

  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    Cancel. Hotels cost money and we're not waiting to have sex so it'd be way more annoying than needed.
  • Jessica
    VIP September 2020
    Jessica ·
    Probably keep, I’ve been planning to stay with my MOHs and he’ll stay with his BM & GM.
  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·

    Cancel. We stayed together the night before and have no regrets.

  • Erin
    Devoted May 2020
    Erin ·

    Keep! We are waiting to live together until after we are married!

  • Martika
    Expert September 2019
    Martika ·

    Keeping this one. My bridesmaids and I are getting ready at a hotel. So I'll stay at the hotel the night before since I already have to be there the next morning.

  • Brianna
    Super October 2019
    Brianna ·

    Cancel! We live together and have a hard time sleeping apart! We will be separating in the morning to get ready

  • Becca
    Super August 2019
    Becca ·
    Keep! Not because of religious reasons or anything. I just liked the idea of getting together with all my girls the night before at an Airbnb and getting ready there the next morning. I also liked that it builds the excitement for us for the wedding day
  • Jen
    Super May 2018
    Jen ·

    Cancel. It didn't make sense to spend money on 2 hotel rooms the night before. Plus it was nice to have a little time to ourselves the night before and the morning of the wedding before things got hectic.

  • Caryn
    Dedicated October 2019
    Caryn ·
    Oh definitely cancel! We’ve been living together for 3 years, so what’s the point? I don’t sleep well without him there.
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
    Keep ! Why not we are not really keeping anything but this 😊
  • Mandi
    VIP March 2020
    Mandi ·
    While I'm comfortable with making many decisions about the wedding and running them past him. This will be one we discuss.
    While it is something I would like to keep. I'll see what he thinks.
  • Arianna
    Dedicated September 2019
    Arianna ·
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    I'm doing the exact same thing! I'm going to be staying at an AirBnB with my bridesmaids the night before and it will give me some clarity so I'm not so nervous the night before. Plus, the place I'll be staying at is closer to my ceremony spot anyway.

  • SraDeCarrillo
    Super August 2019
    SraDeCarrillo ·

    Cancel. We already live together and we are used to sleeping next to each other.

  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·

    Keep! We want to be our first view of each other that day to be when i'm walking up the aisle to him. I'll probably get a room and one of the three nearby hotels. All are within 5 minutes of the venue. It'll make getting ready and getting there easier. No traffic or being caught by a train

  • Fenja
    Expert June 2020
    Fenja ·

    Keep! I like to have an hour to reflect and write my FH a letter. Also we are getting married in a different state, so we are staying in a hotel.

  • Selena
    Super September 2019
    Selena ·
    Cancel, we are traveling out of state, doesn't make sense to get 2 places

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