Just fired my Maid of Honor.

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Honestly. If one of my bridesmaids' husbands was recently incarcerated and I got upset about their lack of enthusiasm about the colors of my table runners or whatever, I'm 100% the jerk in that situation.

I feel like some people get so wrapped up in 'wedding' brain that they forget how to be a good friend.

View Quoted Comment Seriously!
I know it's been said at least once on this post but no one cares about a wedding more than the bride, groom, and their parents. (And sometimes, even the parents don't care as much as the couple. Even if they're paying.)

View Quoted Comment I think you summed it up perfectly. I'm sure op will just do her vague, "way more to the story. Smiley face. Winky face" she's been doing throughout the whole thread while never actually elaborating.

I'm still trying to figure out how you go to prison for burglary. Usually you'll end up in jail for less than a year unless he broke into somewhere serious or stole something crazy.

View Quoted Comment I don't think OP is ever coming back to this thread.
WW, we have been dumped for a notebook.

Ok horrible, poor girl. It is NOT a job! They are not obligated to help you plan. They are there to show their support on the day of your wedding. And you cut her from the guest list just because of this. That is pretty harsh! I really hope there is more to the story then this.

I have a few points to make:

- If you don't include all details in your OP, you are leaving room for assumptions. Your OP said you kicked her out for not giving opinions. It is no ones fault but your own that posters took that at face value.

- People assume you are paying your officiant because it is a real job that people get paid for.

- Planning a wedding does not require support. It's a party that you're choosing to throw.

- it is not your MOHs job to give opinions or do anything for your wedding besides get a dress and show up.

- If someone's husband just went to jail, they are probably going through a difficult time and need more support than someone who is just planning a wedding.

- Without the whole story, the only conclusion I can reach is that what you did was flatly wrong and you owe your friend an apology.

This is bad, you certainly do not need this. She is close friend of yours. You will regret it, i can guarantee. It is not too late, you can see her and apology, say that this wedding thing is driving you crazy and etc.

Trust me, I did something when I was emotional and tired, later I regret. Obviously takes months and years to re-build what been destroyed.

View Quoted Comment That seems to sum it up! Wow, just wow.

My MOH lives on the other side of the country. It's not her job, and I don't expect anything from her except to stand by me on my wedding day.

I think going so far as to removing her from your guest list for no real reason is horrible.

View Quoted Comment You know, if you would have just mentioned there was more to the story you were not comfortable talking about with us in the original post, you wouldn't have gotten the responses that you got. Instead the left that out and made yourself sound heartless for kicking your MOH out of your wedding and guest list for the dumbest reason. You don't have to explain the whole situation or anything just tell us there is more to the story then that. We don't know, all we know is what you write and you only said you fired her cause she isn't helping you like you want. Not that other stuff has happened too. Be more clear In your original posts.

Wow, I'm still really confused by this post. Maybe I missed a lot but still this is crazy. I can see having a discussion with your former MOH being "hey, I know your husband is in jail so if you need to focus on that rather than being in my wedding feel free to tell me by a certain date." Seems rather rude to fire someone over something so insignificant such as not telling you their honest opinion on trivial matters. I feel like I need a glass of wine after reading all this

A comment I made on another post is all too fitting for this post. Grown women shouldn't need to be reminded to be a friend before a bride. It's ridiculous that people want support and validation from this site but they aren't willing to be supportive of their friends when they're clearly in sucky situations.

Wow you people need to lay off its her wedding if she wants a friend there to HELP her and actually help and not just stand there on the wedding day that’s her choice or your choice to have a dud as a MOH. I understand where you’re coming from lady, I probably would have done the same thing. It’s stressful to plan a wedding and to have a good friend to help and have fun with while doing it is a best thing. Good luck!

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Why the hell should anyone do stuff for a wedding that isn't theirs????

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A dud? That's a terrible way to describe someone who is supposed to be an honored guest, a dear friend. It's nice if someone offers to help, but they are not required to, especially if they are going through some personal difficulties. Like LillyBean said, Friend first, bride second.

Welcome to the dangers of vague posting. This is why you either state in your OP there is more than you can't discuss or you tell everything. When you vague post, people have to fill in the gaps somehow.

And @Mackenzie my two MOHs are two very different people, living two very different lives. One lives across the country from me while the other just moved to a new place and is still trying to get settled in as well as still dealing with issues of infertility. I don't expect either of them to help me. That's what my FI is for.

I have 2 BM and 1 MOH who still have not ordered their dress yet....out of 6 total ladies. We are getting to crunch time, as David's bridal said those particular dresses are looking to take about 9-10 weeks to arrive once ordered. I'm stressed out but I've decided that if they don't have their dress in hand (and fitting properly) they won't be in the wedding. It just sucks thst I feel they're dragging it out!

View Quoted Comment My family expected me to be "bridezilla" lol. I'm laid back as well.

Lol wait this is a joke right?