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October 2018

Just fired my Maid of Honor.

bootysjojo, on January 30, 2018 at 8:58 AM

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I don't know what I was thinking by asking her to be my MOH. I think I had a lot of wine one night and I got a crazy idea that she would be good at the role. Boy, was I wrong. She wasn't into it and wasn't helping me with anything. I'd try to get her opinion on something I need to make a decision on and her constant single response is "it's your wedding, hunny do it your way". WTF that's not helpful at all!! I think she just wasn't into it. My officiant is helping me more than any of my wedding party. So I made the decision and cut her in my final guest list shave. Completely. My sister moved to the role. Should have been her in the first place but my sister lives in another state so she can't help much. That's okay. I was doing it on my own or with the officiant's help anyway. Que sera sera! Have you had to let your MOH go? Was there drama? I avoided the drama seemingly, so far.

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JNav · on March 27, 2018 at 4:38 PM
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I cut a bridesmaid out and there was so much drama about it because it was my SIL. At the end she ended up being a groomswoman since my husband wanted his sis in our wedding party (which is understandable. i just didnt want her on my side) Im almost 6 months since the wedding and i wish i had cut another bridesmaid being that her and i no longer talk, instead wish i had another friend in my bridal party but i wasn't sure if shed make it since shes out of town. But whats done is done. If you dont want someone in your bridal party cut them lose. It is your day and remember pictures last forever. You definitely dont want to keep looking back at pictures wishing you had done things differently (like me)
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Moriah · on March 27, 2018 at 8:22 PM
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I wouldn't say that you should "fire" her from it, but I did have a potential BM who I got into an argument with and luckily did not ask her to be in my BP yet, I ended up cutting her from the guest list all together also. It sounds like you're in a tough spot, keep your head up! On the other hand you may want to consider that she was at least supporting you. When I was a BM for my SIL I told her to do whatever she wanted that it was her wedding, but I always finished the sentence with my opinion and what I would do if I was her. Hopefully your sister works out!
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Amy · on March 28, 2018 at 5:22 PM
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How did the OP not remove this post yet? She clearly did a poor job explaining the whole story because they story she listed is crazy and must be a joke! For the record, my MOH is just showing up, having fun and giving a speech. It's not a job. Also, she didn't pick her sister because she lived in another state? I can't.
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K&M · on April 6, 2018 at 11:31 AM
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Whether or not there is more to the story is irrelevant. Your post implies you think your wedding party should be helping you. Being in the bridal party is an honorary role *you* give to someone else for being a good friend to you, and they owe nothing in return. If you want help, you pay someone. If someone is kind enough to offer to do something for free, that's great, but it's not something you are supposed to expect.

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Nikki · on April 17, 2018 at 1:14 PM
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I had to cut one of my bridesmaids. Mostly because she decided to flip out on me while my family was visiting. She flipped out because they were staying at her house (I have an apartment and no room for guests, we were good friends and she offered) and I brought them back after going out for a bit. She went off to talk to someone else and I didn't interrupt her conversation to say hi to her. They were in a closed room, I thought it would be rude to barge in just to say hi. She did not come into the room I was in, I didn't know she was done with her conversation. she started screaming at me and ended up screaming at me to get out. I haven't spoken to her since. She is not invited to the wedding, but I think her refusing to act like a normal person in that situation is reason enough to not want her to show up to my wedding, otherwise known as risking that kind of outburst at my wedding. She was going to help me plan, but I found another friend to help me come up with ideas, as well as family members who are in the area we are getting married in (my FH is military and we are going to his home town to have our wedding).