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Sharon
Savvy December 2012

Is it wrong to have a non-legal ceremony? NOW I NEED A BEST MAN TOAST!!!!

Sharon, on December 10, 2012 at 6:54 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 233

I am getting married on Saturday and my fiancé 's wife will not sign the divorce papers to be spiteful. One couple in my wedding party said they do not want to be part of the ceremony because it is a "fraud." I asked a lawyer and he said there is nothing illegal about having the ceremony and...

I am getting married on Saturday and my fiancé 's wife will not sign the divorce papers to be spiteful. One couple in my wedding party said they do not want to be part of the ceremony because it is a "fraud." I asked a lawyer and he said there is nothing illegal about having the ceremony and legalizing it later. My "friend" said I need to tell the guests it is not legal before the ceremony or she and her husband will not be part of it. I spent a lot of money on this wedding and don't think I need to cancel it when I am doing nothing illegal. How do I explain why they are not in it? We live in a small town and questions will be asked. Could my lawyer be wrong? HELP!

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  • Gee O. aka Happily Wifed Up
    Master June 2012
    Gee O. aka Happily Wifed Up ·
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    Wow Pan, so this means that all the Separated husbands that move in with their new girlfriends as TV potrays, it's all a crime? I so did not know that! Interesting

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  • tiedaknot™
    Master March 2013
    tiedaknot™ ·
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    @Tabatha...all cottage cheese is yummy =)

    @Sharon....could you please change your avatar to something other than the gols rings so that we may recognize you in the future???

    To do this:

    - Click 'Settings' at the top right-hand side of your screen

    - Click 'Manage Profile Settings'

    - Upload a picture from your computer ... and don't forget to save!

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  • Pan
    Master March 2012
    Pan ·
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    Gee O., I think it's different in each state. That was the statute for Florida.

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  • T
    VIP April 2012
    Tabatha ·
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    Did you know it's also a law to tie a giraffe to a light post in New York! Yep! You'll get 30 years!

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  • T
    VIP April 2012
    Tabatha ·
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    Sharon if you don't put up pics of your fraud of a wedding Monday I will personally call the cops on you!! Smiley smile

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  • T
    VIP April 2012
    Tabatha ·
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    Smiley smile


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  • R
    Master June 2015
    RayRay ·
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    Just because it may be a silly law, doesn't make it any less of a law....

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  • MinD
    VIP June 2013
    MinD ·
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    Courtney - as a member of the LGBT community who is planning to marry her best friend in June, I feel your anger and hurt that we cannot legally marry in many states so commitment ceremony is our only option. And it will be every bit as meaningful and as much of a statement of commitment and love as any other wedding. However, as much as we would like, it will not be legal.

    Unfortunately for the OP, what she is describing doing is illegal which is why people are presenting the need for a commitment ceremony vs a wedding.

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  • tiedaknot™
    Master March 2013
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    Oh great...now Tabatha is on a mission....y'all have gone and done it now! =)

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    Mrs. S....I am honored. You rock that side pony well.

    Tiedaknot....Wait until you hit 51. I am downright dangerous to others when I bend over.

    I don't like cottage cheese but I do love apples. I like them with peanut butter or nutella on them.

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
    Mrs. S™ ·
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    Ha, you NOTICED! Nobody has for about an hour :-))))

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  • tiedaknot™
    Master March 2013
    tiedaknot™ ·
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    @MinD...welcome to the post =)

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  • tiedaknot™
    Master March 2013
    tiedaknot™ ·
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    @Mrs S...you little $hit!!!! I thought that was Carole =) "You sit on a throne of lies!.....Imposter!"

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    VIP April 2012
    Tabatha ·
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    @ Foot - She's going to do what she wants.. Let her. Lets all call the local cops and wait for the pics on Monday. I wonder if we called now how important they would make this nonlegal ceremony.

    I'm just trying to remind people this is a fun place and the swat team doesn't give a crapola. Smiley smile


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  • IrishLove™
    Master October 2013
    IrishLove™ ·
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    Did you know in New York that It is illegal for a woman to be on the street wearing body hugging clothing that is like half of the bars woman! And you can't wear slippers past 10 p.m.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    LMAO

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    VIP April 2012
    Tabatha ·
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    I will make this post funny.. I WILL..


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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    This is interesting.....

    http://articles.cnn.com/2009-12-08/living/cheating.spouses.lawsuits_1_suits-lover-law?_s=PM:LIVING

    Beware cheaters: Your lover's spouse can sue you

    Seven states allow jilted spouses to file "alienation of affection" suits against alleged paramours.

    The next time a married man or woman glances your way, you might think twice before acting on impulse and frolicking between satin sheets. The scorned spouse could sue you.

    Yes, you read that right. You, the paramour, can get hit with a lawsuit that could cost you hundreds of thousands of dollars.

    They're known as "alienation of affection" suits, when an "outsider" interferes in a marriage. The suits are allowed in seven states: Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota

    Does the OP live in NC?

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  • Mrs. S™
    Master October 2011
    Mrs. S™ ·
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    Hee hee hee, I'm having fun! And fraud seems to be the theme of the day :-)

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  • tiedaknot™
    Master March 2013
    tiedaknot™ ·
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    This is what happens to the boss....now I get to be the Boss LOL


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