Is it wrong to have a non-legal ceremony? NOW I NEED A BEST MAN TOAST!!!!

OP joins the forums to start this thread, and no other posts? No details about either bride or groom. No details about the so called wedding? Sorry I'm calling bullshit. Entertaining read though, so at least there's that. LOL

On another note,in Boston it is against the law for 2 people to kiss in front of a church.

It is also illegal for a woman to be on top during sex. lol

Wow I'm glad my head was apparently in the sand during this whole saga.

OP- You are not making smart choices.

Honestly I can relate and totally can see your dilemma. When FH and I got engaged we were both still "legally " married although we had filed for divorce it had not been finalized. I am curious why you waited so long (5 days till the wedding) to figure this out, IMO I would think at the 6 month mark you'd be going OMG she hasn't signed better postpone or think of plan B.

On that note I wouldn't defraud people into thinking they are attending a wedding ceremony in the legal sense but I see nothing wrong with a commitment ceremony and finalizing it late since you have all this money invested and 144 invited guests at this point. I think it would be a good idea to send out a short note informing the guests of the commitment ceremony. Wish you all the best!

I have heard of commitment ceremonies and they usually pronounce the couple "united in love" honestly this is a heated topic but I can see Sharons point...yes she should have made sure this was taken care of but the fact of the matter is she didn't and now she has a lot of money, time and energy invested and 144 guests invited so I say go forward and have the commitment ceremony & make it official later just my opinion.

If you have to ask, you probably shouldn't do it.

Really, so many etiquette questions boil down to that.

As far as a best man toast, I'd go with "Wow, this has been a crazy ride. My next line will almost be as big a lie as the ceremony: open bar for everyone."

When we had our ceremony 8/31 our officiant (my sister in law) did not pronounce us husband & wife .. (we legally got married 12/28/2011) ... She just said a prayer, said few words from her heart to both of us individually & to both together, then we had a wine ceremony & then she wished us a good life together, etc.. so there are ways around it without calling you "husband & wife" ... I have bought million books about the ceremonies because we were personalizing it from start to finish

Eddie really? I mean it easy to judge someone when your not in there shoes. Honestly she tried to get a divorce for 2 years. yes, she probably should have waited to make any plans but the fact is she didn't she has alot of money invested and 144 invited guests i see nothing wrong with a commitment ceremony and legalizing it later. Sharon~ honestly I can see your dilemma and I see nothing wrong with doing a commitment ceremony I just wouldn't call it a wedding and be dishonest with your guests.

You may certainly stop this thread. I only stopped by this forum for some advice because I am in a very bad place right now. I am sorry if I offended anyone by not posting all about my wedding. Thank you to everyone who offered advice. I wish I could say this post has been a joke.