Is a Honeymoon fund really THAT BAD? Geez.

Oh, and for everyone who is so quick to post that getting legally married first (for deployment, illness, visas) is "lying to your guests""...

This is the same thing. They think they're buying you a candle lit dinner; they could be buying next month's light bill.

It's not tacky to me, but we all know we have to know our guests and be confident in whatever decisions we make. We won't please everyone. Do what you want. Some people will thinks it's tacky and others won't. Will you be ok with what ever judgment you receive? Answer that and then go from there.

Yeah it is that big of a deal. If you ask me to fund your vacation when I haven't even taken one myself in lord knows how long... you're getting a lime green picture frame as your gift.

"IMO it's no less tacky to literally make a list of specific items for people to purchase for you, wrap up, and then watch you act surprised as you open- a.k.a. a registry."

Meghan M. I absolutely love this part of your response because this is exactly what I was thinking. How is it any different than registering for a vacuum cleaner that cost 200 dollars. Wouldn't the same if you can't afford it rules apply here? But nobody yells get a broom and sweep. Lol. This is totally acceptable but saying hey, this is the experience we want and if you would like to contribute to it here's how causes pearl clutching across the globe.

OP it is your day, DO AS YOU WISH!!

LOL people actually think they are purchasing the couple a swim with dolphins. HM funds are such a farce.

You do understand the concept of wedding gifts, right? It's a way to start the couple off with what they needed, in 'ancient' times because they were setting up a household.

Not to put them on a zipline.

I always want to know who these guests are that are buying six blender/toasters/whatever the fuck else you list... I had ONE guest buy something not on my registry, and she got us a super cute "date night" set. I got ONE toaster because that's what I registered for. I didn't register for a blender so I didn't get one. This idea that people don't know how to give gifts is stupid and ridiculous.

Ok, so- we can't really afford a honey moon. We aren't asking anyone for money. If people give us cash, we will put that towards our trip, and figure out where to go once the dust has settled and we see how much we have to work with. I would NEVER ask for it.

If you're inviting 200 people you don't know really well? It's time to re-evaluate the guest list.

Oh, and flagged.

I can see how people find it tacky, but at the same time I like putting money towards experiences. If you'd rather have an experience over merchandise, I'd be willing to help make that happen. I think I'd be more pissed with the deception of a honeymoon fund but really going to something else.

You have more than enough toasters, blenders, and vacuums? O_o?

Watdatmean?

@Madelyn...haha only if the popcorn has extra butter and salt!!

Toasters, and blenders, and vacuums, oh my!

Toasters, and blenders, and vacuums, oh my!

Toasters, and blenders, and vacuums, OH MY!

Sorry. I've had a day of it.

Yes, they are that bad.

@Jessica, so people asking for plates are materialistic? Don't you think telling people to pay for your vacation takes that to a whole new level?

If registering is materialistic, so is a honey fund. Show us how unmaterialistic you are by skipping both, then.

I love honeyfunds. It allows me to give my gift early so it can actually be used for a honeymoon. If I give someone a check at the wedding and they are leaving the next day, they may not have time to deposit and use the check. I don't care that they take a fee. The $4 is either going to hallmark for a card or honeyfund for the fee. What's the difference? Either way it's going somewhere. I usually throw in an extra few dollars to cover the fee. Not a big deal to me. The last 4 weddings I went to had one and I gave to every single one. Happy to help.

@Amanda C

Why are you also shit stirring by searching for someone's personal profile on FB and posting the screenshot here with their name on it? I believe that is against CG.

Shes in the same wedding group im in i ran across the post and then found this one actually so lets not assume ..we all know what that makes you

The Emily Post Institute says that honeymoon registries are proper. If you don't need anything and would like to register for your honeymoon, go for it. You can also register for charity donations and small personal items for your wedding or honeymoon.

@richard I'm dying.

Also we aren't in second grade anymore. This is the Internet. FFS.