Is a Honeymoon fund really THAT BAD? Geez.

Of course it's all validated on FB. FB is where horrible ideas go to live after they've been discovered on Pinterest.

Cash Bowl, to be fair, was mentioned by someone who is not you.

But seriously, how much do you have to be talked out of it? You'e said you've read other threads, an every single one of them details why it's a bad idea.

If you haven't been convinced by now, there is nothing anyone can say to convince you.

I think they're rude because they are one step away from a GoFundMe account. Why bother with a honeyfund just set up a GoFundMe.

FYI: if you haven't sent invites out there's poems you can add in your invites.

I'm going to also point out that in their etiquette section Brides Magazine says it is okay. I have seen registries where gift cards to certain stores were on the registry. I bought the card happily. It saved me from wrapping and carrying a heavy gift. I have a close relative who is hard to buy for because she has everything. She is going on a cruise and suggested to family that we get her cruise gift cards. I've given her one for every holiday this past year. I'm giving another for Mother's Day rather than flowers. There are many people who will be open to a honeymoon registry. I say go for it. Just consider paying the fees yourself for the website.

I could forgive it easier if the services didn't collect a percentage of every donation

Dawn, there is no way that we're the only site that says that Honeyfunds, i.e. asking for cash, is wrong. No freaking way.

Most of the wedding industry sources are PAID by advertisers to say all kinds of rude things are OK, that doesn't mean shit. So what you read in Bride's Magazine is not worth the paper it's written on.

Look. If you're OK with offending even part of your guest list, then go ahead and fill your boots. Some of your guests will be side-eyeing hard. It's not worth arguing it here, because you're not going to change anyone's mind on this. Asking.for.money.is.rude.

Ashley, because poems make rude things cute.

I don't think it's tacky, especially if you have lived together for a while. I personally would rather contribute to your honeymoon experience or saving for the future rather than buying something that is useless to the couple.

There are many sites that say it is okay not just paid ones. Research it. You will see. There are plenty of people on here who agree also. People will do what they want to do in the end anyway. How people respond to that is up to them. I will continue to give people what they want and ask for whether it be a wedding registry, Christmas or birthday gift. I'm also one of those people who give to needy go find me pages too. I'm not going to judge anyone else and I really appreciate some of the great planning ideas I see here.

My friend had one and when I saw it on her website I instantly felt uncomfortable. My sister's didn't think anything bad about it. I guess it just depends. If you do end up having one I would just say be careful how you word it.

When I was talking honeymoon with my dad, he said "make a small registry at a reasonable place - not pottery barn - and people will get the idea and give cash. F* that's what I'd do!"

I'd see about removing the honeyfund so they don't take your money and people can cut you a check, instead

It's the cutesy poems that really shit me.

I'm literally gagging at the PSA Natalie just posted. Geez, if you're going to be a beggar bride, at least learn the basics of punctuation. Grotesque.

How about a real poem?

"He and I are delighted to say,

that we're getting married today.

We don't want our day to stop,

until we collect money...a lot.

We won't pay for our honeymoon.

Hey, that's not up to the bride and groom!

Ick, work and sweat, sweat and work,

No...that etiquette drives us beserk.

We are entitled, that's who we are,

he's a dream and I'm a star,.

The way it goes, in this new day,

is a vacation, for which we won't pay.

We don't want your stupid gifts,

what we want is more than this.

You owe us our trip, you know you do,

So make sure to deposit a hundred or two.

For those of you, like Erin Wood, who have a "Wow, I LOVE HONEYFUNDS" approach, go ahead and beg and contribute. For the lurkers, this is what the honeyfund looks like -- it's a self-established, meant to confuse the guest, rude, and gross way to get what you want...even worse, not what you want, but what you feel you're entitled to.

Hey, look! There's some honeyfund money on the table --- the first bride to grab the most wins her honeymoon! Run....

I've got a worse one for you Rachel D. This was apparently sent out to guests via text after the wedding...

Cash we asked for because cash we need

For our kitchen to proceed

Having checked our wishing well

We think some people might not have rung the bell.

If you’re one who has forgotten

Don’t sit at home feeling rotten

Just use the bank details at the end of this ditty

And you can still contribute to our kitchen kitty

Natalie, that is so degrading, so disgusting, and so embarrassing (no reflection on you, of course). Why not just have a telethon and have the bride and groom sing and dance for their honeymoon? I'd be willing to watch that, lol.

Asking for cash is just straight up tacky. Wtf would you decide to have a kind of wedding you can't afford? No one asked you to throw away $20,000 for a party. SPEND YOUR MONEY WISELY.

Wow, had no idea people felt that way. My fiancé and I only have one registry listed on our wedding website: honeymoonwishes.com

Putting on invitations, or specifically asking for cash gifts is tacky.

The only people I've ever think honeyfunds are tacky are on here. I get why, but it's never personally bothered me if someone decided to do a honeyfund instead of a registry.

The only one thing that I don't like about them is that they take a percentage, from either your guests or you,

No need to ask for money, if there is no gift requested, I'd give cash

and if you want the money for a house, don't call it a Honeymoon fund

A cash bowl sounds super easy to steal from