I've been seeing tons of vitriol about having a Honey Fund at your wedding. Is it really that bad? My fiance and I have been living together for 4 years, and we have more than enough vaccuum cleaners, blenders, and toasters. We registered with Zola.com for a small (about 35) variety of items, but we also have a cash section for honeymoon, saving for a new home, etc. and don't really see a problem with it. We can afford our wedding, but our parents are helping out as well, because they love us.
I just hate seeing the super nasty posts saying "If you can't afford a honeymoon, don't go!" or even worse, "If you can't afford a big party, go to the courthouse! No one is entitled to a wedding." We can afford a honeymoon, but after spending $20,000 on throwing a giant party for family and friends to eat and drink on our dime, a little help would be nice. No one is obligated to contribute to anything they don't want to. Is a cash fund really that tacky, or is there something deeper here?