Is a Honeymoon fund really THAT BAD? Geez.

Yes, it's that tacky.

It's also lying to your guests. They aren't actually buying you dinner on the beach. You'll just get a check for about 95% of what they gave, after your actual honeymoon.

This rubs me the wrong way: "after spending $20,000 on a giant party for family and friends to eat and drink on our dime, a little help would be nice". You seem to think you're entitled to your guests money because you hosted them at your wedding. They are not required to give you a gift.

Weddings are as expensive as you make them. I just photohraphed a JP wedding with immediate family that headed out to dinner afterwards. It was beautiful and romantic in every sense of the word. They are no less married than someone spending 20k and wanting help funding their honeymoon in exchange.

No one here has ever told someone not to have a wedding if they can't afford a big one. People suggest having a smaller, simpler wedding, because guess what? No one is actually entitled to a big wedding.

People should of course have the right to get married. But the idea that everyone is entitled to a five-digit party, an expensive dress, etc. is incorrect. People deserve basic rights (like the right to marry). Big fancy parties are a luxury, not a need or basic right.

I honestly don't understand this post. You're coming to a forum that you very clearly know frowns upon honeyfunds. To come here and brag about spending 20k on a wedding and also how much your parents "love you" because they're helping. Both of these things are BLESSINGS that you have, but not everyone else does. This is absolute bullshit. If you want a honeyfund, fucking have one. But this post is 100% to stir up shit and earn you stars. You clearly are going to do whatever you want, so what was your purpose? I mean really. If you can afford a 20k wedding, you can afford a honeymoon. It's not a trade. You don't expect a honeymoon to be given to you because you bought them a meal and entertainment for the night. Wtf.

My brother did a honeymoon registry. The bridesmaids gave them something To do in each city they went to. Scooters in Rome, Gondola in Venice, etc. We loved buying it and wrapping it. Alot of people liked doing little gifts like that. They might not like giving cash towards airfare or an all inclusive but a private transfer, room service, tours, spa treatments.

So if you want to register for a honey fund I will find something to gift you out of the box so that you can't return it. IF I decided to give you cash I would take a "service fee" off of it so you would get the same experience as the honey fund. More money for me!!!!!!

No one deserves a honeymoon. You can't afford it then you don't go. Do what the rest of us do. Work.

I'm an adult and know how to give money, I don't need someone telling me or encouraging me to give money. My guests are also adults and don't need to be told I want their money. Have a small registry and your guests will put two and two together, I've been living with my FH for 5 years and we have plenty of stuff to upgrade and buy that we normally wouldn't buy for ourselves.

ETA: & just because my parents aren't contributing to my wedding does not mean that they do not love me or my FH, and it's incredibly rude to insinuate that nobodies parents on here are supportive and loving if they don't give money.

You saying you can afford your honeymoon but asking people to pay for it literally makes ZERO sense. None.

If you don't want to get a blender, how about not register for one? It's that simple.

Have a small registry or no registry. People will give you cash.

I smell a troll....

HOLY SHIT I HAVE 5 STARS NOW LOL Thanks OP!!!

Here we go again...sigh

Lol @Jessica would you like some popcorn with that tea?

Yes. It's tacky and rude to panhandle. Fund your own vacation.

Elphelba sees right into my mind. Perfect response to answer your "question", OP.

The point of a registry is to register for items you want/need. So the excuse of having to open gifts you don't want is completely irrelevant here. And please FFS don't try and say there's nothing in your home you can't use upgrades of. That is nearly impossible! *rolls eyes*

ETA: words.

Do as you wish...

"a giant party for family and friends to eat and drink on our dime, a little help would be nice"

Geeze, Entitled much? Seems like a bunch of stars are being earned through this post though, so why not.

A friend of mine had a honey fund and I liked being able to give her a special experience while on her honeymoon but at the same time i don't like the fact that the website takes a portion of the money. I also ended up spending more than I probably would have otherwise because all of the options were rather expensive.

Do what you want it's your day.