Is a Honeymoon fund really THAT BAD? Geez.

As per usual @Richard has the perfect response!

It's a difference in opinions .. Because I agree with you .. FH & I will b living together for a year before our wedding & won't need gifts so I'm opting for a cash bowl @ the wedding instead of gifts . You know your friends & family so do what fits you best

Cash bowl? Ew.

Y'all on here talking about what's rude but make a lot of rude comments .. That I don't get !!!!

What the fuckity fuck is going on in the forums today?

Like Holy Shit-Stirrers, Batman! Goodness.

It's not rude to point out poor etiquette, @Umeko.

A CASH BOWL. you've gotta be fucking kidding me.

What the actual fuck is a "cash bowl?"

If you don't register or you do a small registry, you will get mostly monetary gifts. In a card. That your guests will hand to you or place in a card box.

I'm terrified to hear what a cash bowl entails.

A cash bowl sounds, by its name alone, like a great opportunity for people to reach in there and steal money.

AKA not the greatest idea in the world.

This is right up there with planning your own bridal shower.

A CASH BOWL?!?! Why not just pass an offering plate around?

*rolls eyes so hard they get stuck*

Emily Post is 4000 years old and her column hasn't been written by her for years.....geez.....I'm fairly sure that anyone who writes about HF's is being paid to do so.

A CASH BOWL? ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?

Congratulations; you win. That is the flat out tackiest thing I have every heard of, in spite of stiff competition from cash bars, honeyfunds and firing bridesmaids....

How did you ever even think that up?

Cash bowl? Why don't you just take a basket around to each table and ask for a donation like they do in church?

...Wow. I'm actually speechless. If this is what makes up the WW Community, I'm not sure I want to be involved. Name-calling, posting my Facebook page, being flagged for posting something you disagree with? This is ludicrous, and completely out of control. To be clear, I'm not trying to stir shit, I'm not a troll, I'm not anything that apparently so many of you have made me out to be -- this was my first post on this site, and I was floored to see how many people disagreed with a HM fund and simply wanted to know why. Interestingly enough, I have asked around and haven't found ANY other forum that is so vehemently against it. Now I feel like I need to go into the internet equivalent for witness protection or something!

Look, I GET that you don't like Honeymoon funds -- not a problem. People are allowed to disagree. But these comments are saying more about the commenters themselves than they say about me. The nastiness that I've seen here is on another level.

Chantal- who posted your facebook page?

Oh come on Chantal. A cash bowl? Panhandling at your wedding? Do you REALLY think that's okay? You're the one who posted still ANOTHER post about this, and if you'd read one post here before you did, you'd realize that honeyfunds in any form are looked down on here, for good reasons, all of which were detailed here in multiple threads in the last months.

This is clearly a shit stirring pot, and congrats; you got your second star.

Just for the record, since you may not have been here long enough? This is also the community that will post dozens of posts consoling a person who has broken up, comforting those going through hard times with their families (often totally NWR), offering advice on where to find everything from sparklers to MUA's.

Yep, that's this community. Far more often than the responses to yet another post about a shitty idea like cash bars (I think there are three posts just today), poems asking for money and Jack and Jill fund raisers.

No one should infiltrate your FB page; that's off limits, and that shouldn't have happened.

But for the most part? This is a great community that merely tries to talk people out of rude, tacky, crappy ideas like cash bars, dry bars and honeyfunds.

Cash bowl. I still can't process that.

I flagged the screenshot from Facebook because the OP's first and last name was on it.

Facebook has also told me to to use sandpaper to help keep ice from caking my windshield.

Facebook doesn't always have the best ideas.

This is an etiquette forum. We're gonna tell you if something is rude or tacky.

A CASH BOWL?! Well now I've heard it ALL. Dying.