Is a cash bar okay for wedding?

OMG Debbie/Karen! I've been to all open bar weddings since I turned 19 and trust me, a drink has never gone wasted. Yes there have been drunk people at the weddings I've gone to, usually the B&G, but that may have to do with the fact that most receptions run from about 5pm to 2am, that's some good drinking time.

I have also worked in a bar where everyone has to pay for drinks. Guess where I've seen more drunk people?

If you have issues with alcohol, may I suggest Al-Anon.

"And I will be happy knowing that when that drunk person left the wedding and crash his car I did not help him consume all that free booze.."

You are a piece of work, you know that?

@Allysha - **you're

And no I don't worry about it because I am properly hosting my guests. You seem to continually miss the point of what everyone is saying about paying for food and drinks (including alcohol) at a party you are hosting.

@Allysha I was pointing out the irony of you discussing spellings and still spelling spelled incorrectly.

You aren't welcome.

Why is the same question asked here 500 times a week lol. A cash bar is never okay.

Allysha - *spelled* *spelt is a grain

*bushes*

My opinion isn't an opinion, I can tell you for a fact that people will talk. My mother went to a wedding 30 years ago that had a cash bar, she still talks about how tacky it was.

Lord we have been posting the same thing all day:

- drinking does not equate to driving drunk

- adults should know how to behave (not waste, not get drunk, not drive)

- you know the wrong people if they do the above

Debbie/Karen - do you clutch your pearls at the amount of wasted food at weddings too? Seriously.

Allysha - we're quite happy, thank you. And our guests will be too - because we're not making them pull out their wallets at our weddings.

Sucks to be a guest at your wedding! They'll be talking shit about your bad hosting for years to come!

@Debbie: You know, most adults have the sense not to drive drunk. Most will call a cab, or Uber, or get a nearby hotel room. We will be providing our guests transportation to and from their resorts to the wedding/reception so they don't have to drive at all.

Adults, believe it or not, are generally capable of being adults.

I'm thinking when Allysha posts her BAM we'll see pics of guests in the background taking money out of the envelopes to pay for their drinks lololol

Guests talk shit when they are not hosted properly. It's a fact. Happened with my cousin when she had free drinks during cocktail hour, then did cash bar for 3 out 4 families during her wedding reception.

Allysha, your family is no different. To your face they'll "smile and smile and be a villain". is it mean? Yes, but it started when you were rude with the cash bar.

Grow up. Coming to this forum, insulting users, stirring up shit. It's not helpful. I would love to listen once you have a fully realized argument and can defend yourself logically.

@Allysha - I can't even decipher wtf you just said.

ETA - Grammar and spelling lesson for you.

This whole argument reminds me of this.

I see the point everyone is making but I think it's YOUR wedding and YOUR budget and I understand if you cannot afford it. I think the idea of just having beer and wine and not a full bar is a more budget friendly idea. Overall do what YOU want to do. Years down the road I don't think you'll regret saving thousands of dollars but you might regret going into debt so everyone can drink as much as they want.

Why do people think open bar = drunk people? Adults can handle themselves and I'm sure they're responsible enough to not get wasted at a wedding and try to drive home. Plus if someone was sooo drunk, I'm sure another guest would stop them before they tried to drive home.

Thanks Allysha!! I pride myself on being psychic you know!

Ugh, @Bride to Be obviously you didn't read ANY of the comments or have lurked. We tell people to host the wedding they can afford, not the one Pinterest tells them to have. If that means a wedding with just 25 people in a local park with BBQ and Beer and wine, go for it, as long as it's completely hosted by the bride and groom.

@Allysha, it came up when planning my wedding. As in don't do that, it's fucking tacky.

@Allysha I refuse to say you are welcome if you are not simply because you said "Thank you." I pride myself on honesty.

@BrideToBe - nobody should be going into debt to pay for a party. You properly host the wedding reception you can AFFORD.