Dry Weddings

"And if anyone disagrees, I seriously think they may have a problem. Just my opinion though."

Kendell, this is what you said just a couple of pages ago - if that isn't diagnosing people with alcohol issues simply because they don't agree with you, then clearly I've been pouring LSD into my coffee again.

I am a man. I am saying from my perspective and in my group of friends she's being a bad host. Obviously some of her groups of friends agree with me. Sorry if you don't like that.

Um, Shannon sweetie...that wasn't a reference to alcoholism. That's a reference to social skills lol. If you can't have a good time without drinking, then your social skills are not up to par. Thanks for calling me out though!

Fh and I can count on one hand the number of drinks we've had in the last year, my family doesn't drink much and when they do it's only beer, and fh's family has alcoholism issues so they're all very careful about drinking. We are having an early dinner reception. That being said, we're still serving alcohol. Whether people need it or not, most see a wedding reception as an excuse to have a few drinks. I don't expect anyone to get plastered, but I'm sure nearly everyone will have at least ONE beer. I've been going back and forth about it, and I was planning on only beer, but after this post I think I'm going to buck up and have other options too. Most will be fine with beer, and I can send the leftovers home with guests. Talk about your ultimate party favor.

And not having alcohol can definitely break her day, there have been more than one post in here about guests leaving only an hour or two into the ceremony or going across the street to get booze at a bar and disappearing for long stretches of the reception.

Glenn, now it makes sense. I can understand YOUR perspective. My FH LOVES to have drinks with his guys and have a good time. He was pissed to learn that we would only be serving champagne and mimosas at our reception (mind you, its a brunch) lol.

Glenn, that's awesome. I have seen more than a couple of brides here whinge that everyone skipped out early/snuck off to the bar, and how rude that is. Uh, ladies, they're GUESTS, not a captive audience. If your wedding sucks, the guests will wander off. Sorry.

For me, the ceremony was about us and the reception was about our guests. We had an open bar because that is what our guests would prefer and enjoy, and we cut corners in other places (such as decor and my dress) so we could be good hosts. Nothing steams me like brides on here who have a cash bar or dry wedding just so they can spend more cash on the froufrou stuff that guests don't care about.

I like how Kendell is backing down from her previous statements, with just that extra whiff of condescension.

HAHAHA, Kendell if only you knew. I wanted to do beer and wine at first just to save on money, it was my FW who insisted on the full open bar, and now I'm glad she did.

Oh wait so now she knows what is best for her guests? Are they all five year olds? How about the guests know what's best for themselves, after all I do believe they are adults. SMH.

Oh yeah, Kendell totally called us alcoholics, and now she's told us we have no social skills, not sure which is worse actually.

Oh, btw Shannon, I think I've gotten two bingos so far, what is my prize?

Nope. You must have it twisted, Shannon. I'm not backing down from anything. I said I understood Glenn's point of view. Please don't take offense, but most men would see a party without alcohol as bad hosting skills. I still stand by my opinion though. You dont need alcohol to have a good time. Period.

Glenn, as your prize, you get to attend a DRY WEDDING!

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

I'm from a largely irish family, and though it may seem as though i'm stereotyping myself here, but they drink, a lot. And not that they arent fun when they are sober, because they really are... some of my best memories are from my older relatives / friends getting drunk and singing songs, dancing, and telling stories.

I've been to dry weddings that seem to go off well, and then afterwards the couples sit back and really wish they'd had booze to really make it that much more fun.

in the end its the bride/grooms choice ( or whoever is paying ) and it all depends what YOU WANT. i agree with other posts pro-dry saying that if people say anything mean/snide about it then its ok to write them off, its disrespectful to challenge anyones thought of what will make the day perfect for them.

Shannon and Glenn, you guys are a trip!!! Clearly you all will have a blast on your day. From the last post with Kendell she did not back down on her previous statements, she simply said she gets it now since Glenn is man and her FH also enjoys having drinks with his guys.

Soooooo....if your wedding guests are half men and men like to drink, isn't it a bad host who doesn't serve alcohol when half her guests like to drink?

Again Kendell, this is a point of voice of my FW more than me initially. But ultimately I would never invite someone to my house for anything and not have food and drinks readily available for them.

Hrm. I'm the one who insisted on a full open bar, vs. wine and beer. I guess that makes me a dude. Anyone want to teach me how to pee standing up?

Pumpkin using logic FTW