Do yall find it rude for someone to ask

Umm..yes, I do find it rude..the only person that asked me anything about how much it was, was my brother..and I said I dont know, and I don't know how big it is either, then he tried to guess..

I think it's rude. If you want to share that information then it should be up to you to initiate that.

I find it very rude. Several people asked me what size my diamond was and it really made me mad. Why does it matter? Do you need to make sure yours is bigger than mine? Does it make you feel better knowing?

I don't have a problem with it IF I know it's for research (like they're looking for a ring). I also don't have a problem disclosing other information (how much rent costs, how much I'm spending on the wedding, ect) if it's for the same reason. But if people are just prying I think it's rude.

It is rude. If some one were to ask me the size of any of my jewelry, I would ask them if they would like to know my bra size next. I consider it personal and private. If people want to speculate on their own, well, that's their business. But don't ask me - otherwise, I might enquire about that person's more personal business.

But, I've been spared these questions. Perhaps it's because I have an emerald, and people are thrown by this?

I agree I believe its rude. And I believe that the carat doesn't mean everything. My ring is kind small in comparison but I know that fh saved and bought from working hard. Where as my fsil ( who i do love) wants a big rock, but her boyfriend is getting family money for hers. Sorry just wanted to say that! So yes i think its rude!

Sometimes I think it might be because someone gets uncomfortable and just wants to ask you something. Instead of a "oh its so pretty" and thats it. They want to add in something else. But yes, it can totally come off as rude.

But me being the non girly girl...if someone asked I wouldn't know what the answer is! lol

It depends on the relationship/ context. If your best friend is asking out of excitement, or someone is asking for research (like they are in the market) that's probably ok. But otherwise, yea, totally rude. Too many implications there.

I think its rude. Ive avoided this question since I have an Opal. But I have gotten..."No Diamond? You guys must be on a serious budget." I was like WTF??? First off the decision on my ring came down to a rose with a Diamond in the middle and the Opal one I have now. I love Opals, especially Fire Opals (which arent cheap). Mine and FH's birthstones are Opal and we are getting married in Oct, so the Opal was very fitting. Plus, Im superstitious and Ive been told that it is bad luck for you to buy your own Opal. It has to be given as a gift. I havent had any Opal jewelry since High School when someone stole my ring and earings out of my gym locker. So, FH got me my Fire Opal. The thought and meaning behind it is worth more than any Diamond. I replied to that comment with "Its sparkles more than a Diamond".

Yeah its rude, and more uncomfortable than anything. To be honest I have no idea how many mine is, and I am with @Tori FH worked hard and I think it is beautiful and perfect for me. Funny story a girl from college was all about "the big ring/bling" her FH knew this an panicked, he ended up getting her this huge ring with a flaw that you could see with your naked eye! Sacrificing quality for quantity...booo!

Danie: I love fire opals, and I've heard that superstition, too--I've also heard they're bad luck for anyone not born in October! (Sadly, I was born in November.) I can't BELIEVE people actually comment on your budget because of it--that's nuts. And totally rude, obviously.

Nobody's asked about carats with my ring, but I'm in a similar situation to Michele; my ring is a ruby with two white topaz (which a lot of people assume are diamonds). The stones on my ring are lab-created, which FH and I really like--ethical reasons are an issue, but mainly we just think it's really cool to have a ring made with SCIENCE. :p But some people have definitely said things sort of offhand to me about "real" gems, like mine aren't as good because they're lab-created. *eyeroll*

One person did comment that my ruby was really big, but she didn't ask HOW big. :p

I personally dont think its rude to ask the size or cut or shape or clarity... however it is rude to ask the price. you can have a cheap LARGE diamond, horrid clarity and cut poorly, or a small, clear, beautifly cut diamond and get them at the same price. never ask cost or value.

Yes. Extremely rude. But then again diamonds are some of the most inhumanely mined ores on the face of the earth. Hence the reason my wife won't even wear one.

The proper response is, we chose a smaller conflict free diamond which doesn't support the torture of humans to drive lower diamond prices to the market. The downside is that a conflict free diamond is more expensive, so the pretentious need not apply. Then again, those are the people that only care about themselves, and really don't care how their rock (yeah baby - rolleyes) showed up on the jewelery store display case.

I think Im alone on this lol...I don't find it to be rude. No one asked me, but I don't think I'd be upset by it at all. But it's personal preference.

I think its rude...i wouldnt mind if my best friend asked but most others it would really make me mad. i dont even know how many carats mine is-but i love it!

I think it's a bit inappropriate and yeah, rude.

Maybe it's just how they are within their family. I just find it a bit invasive. Plus we were always raised not to ask people personal questions and I find that to be personal.

Based on the interrogations I overheard I do have a pretty good idea of how many carats it is but I still never outright asked him.

Like Tori, FH saved to pay for my ring. Which makes it so much more special to me. He could have gotten something a lot simpler and cheaper but he really sacrificed for what he wanted me to have. In theory, there's no way he could afford this ring on his salary.

@Matt, being completely honest here...I have NO eartly idea what goes into mining diamonds. *shame*

It is really no one's business how much or how many...the ring is a symbol of the love between you and your future husband. My godmother has a very expensive band with no diamonds at all but was married for 42 years before her husband passed.

@ladylee - In theory it has gotten better, of course it depends on if you read a funded rebuttal or not...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blood_diamond