Do yall find it rude for someone to ask

I find it so rude to ask the size and the price. I know my FH got me what i would love.... mine is a hear shape.... and that means alot to me....he know how much i love hearts.

There is a young girl at work that is so into that she wants Tiff & co ring and size she want. I think she is crzy she cant keep a man and parties way to much she aint. But that was the first thing she ask and i was like it doesnt matter its what i love

It all depends on who's askin...I have no problem telling my family & close friends..but anyone else outside that might get the blank stare w/a head cocked to the side! I have yet to come across someone ask how much it costs.

Well you know, I worked at a diamond jewellery store for 4 years and people seem trained to ask the tdw, total diamond weight. they just want to know! to them it SEEMS like the polite thing to ask, they want to ask SOMETHING about your ring to show interest. They just don't get the big deal it is to you, and that's what's personal

I think its super rude!! I have had like 5 people ask me and I tell them all the same thing... "It doesn't matter how much it is or how big it is, the only thing that matters is what it symoblizes!" Then they dont know what to say...

It's extremely rude, in my opinion. I would be offended and hurt if someone made some of the rude comments about my FW (future wife's) ring. It's not a very big diamond, but that's not the whole story. That ring belonged to my grandmother who died before I was born. Each of her daughters got a piece of the set after her death. I got the diamond from my aunt and the wedding band from my mom when I was in my early 20's. My mom worked for a few years to get ok with me being a lesbian. I was with an ex for 11 years and never once thought of giving it to her. I had been with FW for almost 1 year before I asked my mom if I could give the ring to her. (I felt that it was only right to ask her first.) Mom absolutely loves FW and said she was ok with it. FW loved that I gave her a ring that had so much sentimental value to my family and said the size didn't matter. She'd rather have that one that means so much rather than one that is bigger just for the sake of being bigger.

@Shannon my friend's mother left her wedding ring to her oldest grandson. She gave it to his GF when he proposed and she didn't want it. It wasn't big enough for her. And now she wonders why his family doesn't care for her. Ha!

@Shannon - WOW! That's a love story! I would LOVE to have a ring that had that much meaning to my/fh family. I DO have a diamond ring that was passed down to me from my grandmother, but fh wanted to buy me one - I think it was the process he wanted, you know?

@LadyLee - Are you SERIOUS?? She's gonna have a hard time with them for a LONG time... My family would be so offended if that happened. When my grandma gave me her ring, she told me up front that she didn't expect me to marry with it...but I got it from her as a kid and wore it around my neck (its her E-ring) for 10 years. She knows it means a LOT to me.

Oh well that's just the tip of the iceberg. They called off the wedding. It was supposed to be this weekend I think.

I have to say that I am in agreement with the people who think that it is rude. I think that if you admire or hate someone's ring then just say so. If you think it is beautiful there is no reason to even care what size it is or how much it cost. I also think that of the latter statement. We all sometimes get caught up and even I have admired a few engagement rings here or there, but I have never asked a person how big it is or how much it cost.

FH on the other hand would love for people to know how much the ring that he is still paying for has cost but not in an egotistical way but a proud way. I honestly believe that if he had chosen a ring from Wal-Mart it wouldn't have made a difference I would love it because he made an effort to provide me with a symbol of his love and that's all that matters to me.

In short, it's nobody's d@MN business how much it cost!

@LadyLee - Why am I not surprised?

I don't mind at all. I love my ring and am so proud of it. It is what he could afford and ask me to spend the rest of my life with him. Everyone is a little funny about the subject, but just think they are Jealous! Haha!

Hmm, I have only had family members ask me that, I didn't find it rude at the time, but I can see where you would be put off because it's like they are asking a question that sets them up to judge the size of your ring.

I personally think it's silly to go into debt for a ring so if you're happy with the ring, that is all that matters.

Yep. I think its very rude. Right up there with random people touching pregnant women's bellies. Its like mind your own bees wax!

He didn't go into debt for it. That's why it took so long for me to get it lol!

@Ashley thank uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu! What is it that makes people instinctively want to touch a pregnant woman's belly. That absolutely drives me insane. it's like "hellooooooooo! private space here!" I can just see myself wobbling around swatting people's hands away lol!

After that it'll be everybody wanting to kiss and coo all over the baby! Yuck!

I have people asking me the same thing. What I tell them is that I don't know. I don't know, I'm not lying. I told Alex not to tell me the price or the amount of carats my ring was. I wanted to love it without know the price tag. He really wanted to tell me too because he got it on a sale and wanted to show off how much he saved. It's his new talent, he said he learned it from me lol. Your right, it is kinda rude. It's like people asking you for your weight, or how much money you make a year. People always wants to know more information then they are entitled to.

I do think it's rude to ask. My FH picked a setting online, took it to a jewelry store, asked if they had anything similar, designed the ring, picked a diamond, the store had to special order it, then he was so excited to propose to me, he did it three days before valentine's day because he couldn't wait. Do you think I care what size it is? Heck no! Is it the most beautiful ring in the whole world to me? Oh, yeah! And don't you dare ask to try it on!

I agree with Matt, Analy and Shell. All good points. Yeah for conflict free diamonds!

I've got one for you girls, people ask me if mine is REAL. I'm 25 and not the most girly of people and my ring is very noticable (I have no idea how many carats nor do I care) but people ask me all the time, it's VERY rude.

I sadly have to find out such things for insurance purposes becuase they are inherited diamonds from his late grandmother

I have a sapphire ring and have had people make bitchy comments like, "Oh, he couldn't afford a diamond, huh?" OK, first of all it is a BIG sapphire, not that it matters--but they aren't cheap in the first place, and I'm not sure why you would assume a several-carat gemstone is cheap.

But the reasons are these:

-I just don't really like diamonds; I think they're sort of boring, and I love colors.

-I can't have something as a symbol of my marriage that was ripped from the hands of an indentured laborer, or that funded genocide in another country. I know you can get conflict-free diamonds, but I was worried--you could put that label on ANY diamond if you were unscrupulous. So I thought it was safer to go with a different stone entirely.

-My ring is gorgeous and exactly what I wanted--and if I had wanted a big-ass rock, I would've helped pay for it. I can't see any reason for him to spend half a year's salary to find out whether I'd marry him or not. It isn't about the ring.