Do yall find it rude for someone to ask

I think it's rude. People ask why I wanted a sapphire over a diamond. It's because that stone holds a lot of special meaning to me. It's my daughter's birthstone.

@ Bride to Be yeah girl...I rock this ring as if its 5 carats!!!! Girl my family always says that...girl you are so proud of that ring...Im like I sure am! My family is very supportive and they love FH and are very proud of him becasue they know he is a good man and that he's serious about the commitment and that is the most important thing! So girl we will keep rocking our rings knowing that we have good men which after all is the most important thing...isn't it?

@Bride to Be, I don't think the size of the ring/stones would make any difference to me. Based on the interrogations I overheard, my ring is at least 3 carats. As you said, the diamonds are nice-sized and the quality is just impecable. So it's not that I'm ashamed of it or anything like that. I just don't like people asking me a whole bunch of questions. Maybe that's why it bothered me b/c I was beign bombarded with questions on every side. And I mean dang can I at least get a congratulations FIRST?!

@ DCT I actually checked a couple of people -believe it or not - over the girl that I'm no longer friends with. SEVERAL folks have made comments about the size/quality of her ring and I kindly reminded them he bought what he could afford and he made her his wife. If I had to choose between waiting for a ring or getting married sooner, I'd chose to get married every time. Now don't get me wrong, I LOVE my ring and I appreciate my honey b/c I know he sacrificed a lot for me to have it. Once he made up his mind the caliber of ring he wanted me to have, that was it. I couldn't mess with that. It's a man thing I guess. But the point is I would have been content with something a lot simpler.

It is horrid how people can act. Some of it is out of jealousy!! My ring is approx a 1/2 carat, therefore I don't get asked how many carats as it is pretty obvious to anyone with any knowledge that my ring is not huge, but it is BEAUTIFUL and I love it as it is a symbol of my FH's love. And he got the biggest size we could afford of a truly great diamond. I could have had a carat and a 1/2 of a poorer quality for the same price.... But quality over quantity!

** tell those nosy people to get lost!

I'm one of those people who also thinks it has to do with the context in which it's asked. In general I think it's rude to ask, but close family doesnt bother me. My oldest daughter has been the only one to ask me how many it was. She is recently engaged herself and they don't have her ring yet so I know thats why she was asking. Trying to get a general idea. I know how many carats it is total between the engagement band and the wedding band and I know how many carats the center stone on the engagement ring are. But thats only because i've seen the certificate for it. But overall, yeah, I don't think it's anybodys business.

@Ladylee LOL only one person said something everyone else is just freaking excited!

I would not be offended if someone were looking to buy a ring and prefaced with how much they admired mine. Otherwise, I think it is rude.

News flash- everyone is funny-acting in one way or another, not just you! me too! haha! yes it's very gauche for people to ask the ct weight of your ring, just tell them you don't know and don't care. the only person who should know that info besides you and your fiance is your insurance company.

DCT did you get my email?

Lol @ Sawtoothbride. It wasn't good enough that I told them I didn't know. They just went directly and asked FH! :o)

I don't get offended, I don't know what caret or how much it cost (I have an idea on the price lol) but if someone asks I just ask why it matters? All that matters is that I'm in love with my ring and my man.

I think it's extremely rude. And maybe I'm just a b****, but the first thought that enters my mind when I hear a bride or a bride-to-be say, "And it's XX carats!" is that they care more about how much it's worth than they do the emotions behind it.

I dunno how many carats mine is. And I don't care. I already told FH I never wanna know how much he spent or how big it is. All he told me was that it's really good quality, and I told him to be quiet. I don't want to know ANYTHING except the story of how he picked it out (He had to go to six different jewelers before he found the perfect one) and how nervous he was about proposing. Cause that's just cute.

Ooh, that is SOOOO rude! I think it is rude and uncouth. I can *sort of* understand if the person asking is diamond shopping...but other than that: NO!

I'm marrying the love of my life - maybe people should focus on THAT instead of how much or little money my man spent. Like LadyLee's fh - my fh spent a lot of time, energy, and THOUGHT into what he got me. It's a beautiful ring and a great quality - but that's not the important part to me. The important part to me is that he REALLY thought about it - meaning he was thinking about ME. And that's what I love. Cause I love this man!

The only person who asked me about the size is my male bff's boyfriend. But he's always a jealous, bitter, biotch whos catty on the regular. And I looked at him and asked could I compare it to his. So he STFU. He's also asked me about my diamond studs fh bought me to match my ring.

him:Are those real? *catty voice*

me:YES, they are, Thank you

him:But they're so BIG

Me:I know

Sawtooth took the words out of my mouth. Only person who needs to know is the person insuring the ring. Thats besides you and your FH.

Well, I think it's rude to ask for the price definitely.

I actually stopped hanging out with a gf because she would always ask for the cost of everything that I spent or owned. I also find spending time with people always asking if something I was wearing is new or commenting on my weight loss very trying to my patience.

What does it all matter?

It's just nosy.

I am used to nosy people, but I don't have much respect or care to hang around them too much.

Slap worthy.

@ Ladylee yeah girl but I was on call all day today so Ive barely had time to go to the bathroom let alone read my email but you know I'm dyin to know!!! ROFL

ITS RUDE!!! My FH spent A LOT on my ring.. I not only get how big is and how much was it ... but also Why do you wear that to work??.. The one that PI$$ED me off was our neighbor that has been friends with my FH for 5 yrs grabbed my hand and before he could see anything in a Club on new years eve he said Oh thats fake!! ruined my night.. That he thought that little of my FH to say something like that... I know it was more of jelousy but really?? at that point I reminded him that I was sorry that he couldn't afford something like it on his pay.. and walked away... haven't spoken to him sense and he live right next door..

ROFL @ Pumkin...I'm with you girl!