Cash gift... Bridal shower

Your question was can you ask for monetary gifts?

We answered: No

You asked why not?

We answered: It's tacky and rude and awkward and greedy

You're still asking, but why? but why? but why?

Are you 5? You got the answer to your question, move on.

You want support? Here it is:

It's insulting to, by asking for cash, imply that an adult doesn't know how to give cash. It's also stupid as fuck to have a bridal shower with no registry. Who wants to waste 3 hours out of their Saturday watching you open cards? I damn sure don't. And how is it tacky to have a bridal registry but not tacky for someone to have a birthday or Christmas wish list? What's the difference? Please support your answer.

Asking for money is rude. If you don't get that we can't help you.

Why-because it's rude and tacky as f***.

A shower is to shower the bride with gifts to start their married life together. Not cause you want cash. You have been given reason but deciding not to use them as you want to do what you want.

I would probably give you a monopoly game cause there is money in there.

O&S- if you can't answer that's fine. If you don't care, that's fine too. I'm looking for insight. Hoping y'all can provide, and some of y'all do. So it's worthy all the craziness.

She probably thought there was a difference from asking for money at a shower or asking for money at a wedding.. no? this is unacceptable for a 4 star bride.

I feel like OP is moments away from saying "I know what you are but what am I" like a bloody 6 year old...

Why don't you ask some of her relatives how tacky THEY think it is?

AlmostMrsE - did I post this thread just to get everyone worked up? Lol. No one should allow someone else's questions to effect you.

Waiting for insight? Everyone already gave you their insight. Bridal showers are for gifts, not cash. Asking for money is rude.

Sure, I'll bite. I'm not white knighting. I'm annoyed by the snark, so yeah, here's my answer:

The purpose of a shower is a little sexist - to help the bride set up her "household" and I think the origins are from the great-grandmother days. So there isn't really a good reason to have showers anymore but they happen anyway.

It makes sense that someone might want to say "monetary gifts preferred" because most people getting married have jobs, homes, etc. I get it.

But it's just NOT POLITE to do that. Just like you don't throw your own shower, you don't allow anyone to say anything about money if they throw you a shower. It isn't done. It's gift grabby. It's utterly gross.

Honey, do you have significant reading comprehension issues? It has been explained several times what showers are for and why you don't ask for cash.

I'm not sure if you are trolling or if you really do need reading comprehension help.

A registry is there so people don't buy you the same item. I remember going to a shower once and giving the bride the same toaster over she had already opened 5 minutes ago. It's not telling someone what specific thing to give you.

Asking for cash is telling an adult what to do. Adults know how to adult.

In other words, as an adult, I will gift you whatever I see fit and BE FUCKING THANKFUL!

ETA: and yeah, if you've been here more than a day you knew exactly how this was going to go, don't act like you didn't know, lol

I just have no words for you. You know exactly what you're doing. Petty.

That's a good idea Celia! Thanks

I recently got a shower invite that said "registered at X, Home Depot gift cards appreciated" I didn't see anything wrong with it, but I would have been slack jawed if it said money appreciated. If the bride makes a small registry many people will opt to give cash but it's not recommended that you ask.

How did you think this thread would go?

Since you asked "can you do x?" I assume that you at least understand there are two answers to that question - yes, and no.

You really couldn't have seen that the reason for "no" is "because it's rude"?? What other POSSIBLE reason would there be? "No, you can't ask for cash because you'll be eaten by sharks." "No, you can't ask for cash because it's literally against the law." "No, you can't ask for cash because you'll be cursed and all of your children will be born with no toes."

If you're not trying to be a jerk (spoiler: you are) then I really do not understand why you bothered to post this.

Is today Tuesday or Wednesday?

Thanks LiveFreeAndBride. Very helpful!

Are you asking someone to do this for you or are you planning to do this to someone else? If someone asked for cash instead of gifts on my behalf I'd be embarrassed