Cash gift... Bridal shower

Wow GymRat. Do you really feel like I'm that terrible of a person that FH needs luck? Would you say that to someone if you weren't hiding behind the Internet?

Some of y'all need a little bit of patience.

Not WK'ing because I know you can't ask people for money but yeah, it is weird that you cant ask for money but giving everyone a shopping list of the shit you want is A-ok. It is what it is.

OP, is she doesn't want anything just tell her to register and then sell everything. Problem solved.

No. It is rude to ask for money. Gifts are never expected and in many circles, it's not socially acceptable to give cash b

@Boozy, are you serious? People take their time to pick out a gift. A gift that is meaningful. For you to suggest that OP just return/sell the gifts for cash is downright greedy and rude.

"Thank you for coming to our wedding! By the way, we sold your gifts for cash! Lol"

Might as well write that in the thank you cards, right?

@Carrie, I think she was being sarcastic

Well if she is, then my bad.

However, I'm sure there are people out there who are serious and will actually try and do this.

*shudders*

People actually do suggest that on here. I've seen it myself, SMH. NO. getting gifts from registries and returning the item for cash is also rude. And deceptive. (I know BoozyBaker was being sarcastic)

I didn't call you terrible, YOU DID.

So if the shoe fits...........lace that bitch up and lace it up real tight and good.

I say a lot of unfiltered shit to someone's face, but you wouldn't know that and I can't prove it.

To answer your question though: YES I WOULD. I've reached maximum IDGAF mode.

With my resting bitch face the delivery is even worse. I'm not here for your feelings.

The person who needs patience ain't us honey.

Hopefully she has better luck next time communicating. Etiquette shouldn't need defined for you to get a clue. It is the same across the board and so the "tacky af" statements should have been enough. That isn't someone saying"because I said so". It is wedding etiquette. So, do whatever you want. No validation for your idea on here. It's rude. And not just because everyone said so. It just IS. Reminder to self: proofread bridal shower invites if someone throws one for me to be sure they do NOT put anything like this on there and humiliate me.

*begins slow clap for @GymRat*

Typical. Ask a question and then ignore the answers because they don't make *enough* sense to you.

Why did you ask, and what did you think you'd receive as 'proof' that we know more than you do, in this situation at the very least? Were you looking for citations? Bibliography?

Asking for money is tacky as fuck. Everyone seems to know that but you.

Move along, nothing more to see.

OP, if you need another reason aside from EVERYONE on WW telling you its tacky AF, maybe you'll believe Miss Manners:

Miss Manners says no to Cash Gifts. Asking for cash gifts is a Wedding Etiquette blunder. Miss Manners says that asking for cash gifts makes the bride and groom look greedy. Even if the couples want to donate the cash gifts to charity, Miss Manners is still against for couple who will plead for cash gifts. Whichever way one may look at it, people will think that couples who ask for cash gifts have a mark of greed on their foreheads.

http://weddingetiquette.bodymindhomecare.com/Articles/Miss_Manners_on_Wedding_Etiquette_for_Brides.php

and another:

Whether you like it or not asking for gift giving in cash will make you look greedy, even if you claim that the money will go to charity. Also, your guests will feel less generous.

Gift giving of cash is an option to guests. They may opt to give cash as a wedding gift but wedding etiquette tells that you should not, ever, ask them for gift giving of cash.

http://www.bonboniera.com/wedding-etiquette/Articles/Giving_Cash_Wedding_Etiquette.php

If the bride doesn't want to register for the shower, don't include gift information and maybe make it a "bridal bash" or something.

There is no classy way to ask for money, so if you do include that on the invite just be prepared that most people will respond negatively and may decline or reduce their gift.

No

Gymrat's a badass!

So OP you're saying it's ok for your MOH to ask for cash on your behalf when she throws the shower? And it's ok because it's not you asking?

I think YES registries are great because they give guidance, but another thing you can think about is that it's more respectful to your guests.

There's been times in my life, especially during my undergrad, where I couldn't afford to give every bride who's shower I went to $100. Seriously. I was giving out like, $20 gifts. And, that's okay. Especially because I could buy it, arrange it nice, and all was well. But, it would've been so terrible to watch the bride open up cards with bills after bills after bills until she got to me and there's a $20 and I'm like... sorry. I'm poor.

See how registries help not only YOU but your guests as well?

At almost Mrs E- and that's not tacky. Lol

@gymrat- your response very much implied such.

I disagree with how you treat people. FYI- reaching IDGAF mode is a symptom of loss of patience.

@celia- I did the opposite of ignore the answers... I inquired further... Like I said, I received response that were great and helpful.

@NowASptMrs- I'm actually not saying it's ok. Just asking why it isn't. But I've received sufficient response at this point.