Cash gift... Bridal shower

I never give cash at a shower. I always buy a gift either from the registry or if no registry I'll purchase something else.

I always give cash at the wedding.

@spazzy You're answer is top notch

Straight up asking for money is rude.

Would you ask someone for money? Point blank. Thats how I look at it. Under no circumstance would I ask someone for money. Clear enough or are you just trying to get your 5 stars?

Hey Uncle Joe I need some cash, thanks! Or Aunt Betty I need some more cash also thanks! Oh Ashley, whats the cash for.. oh nothing I just don't want gifts or maybe ill use it for my house, or maybe honeymoon, but I just want money.

My friend got an invite today for her boss to only give cash, check or gift card. It's so tacky and wrong on so many levels.

Because giving money removes all thoughtfulness and sentiment from the gesture, so basically you're saying, "I don't want to remember you in five years, when I use the toaster you gave me-- I just want you to pay to come to my shower" or wedding, as the case may be.

I thiiiiiiink she's gotten the answer she needed at this point.

Then why post and bring it back to the top, rosey?

No. And if you're asking "why not", we immediately realize that this is something you want to do. You're not eight years old, and your wedding isn't an opportunity to write a wish list to Santa Claus. You have your wedding, invite who you want to invite, accept the RSVPs at face value, and graciously thank your guests for any gifts they send your way.

I cringe when I see these posts, because the bottom line is that the couple has no right to poetically search for a way to get their hands into a guest's wallet. People know what wedding invitations mean. They'll either attend with a gift (monetary or otherwise), send a gift despite their decline, or they'll just decline and send nothing. That's it. The couple has no recourse to extract a gift -- monetary or otherwise.

@Julieth/Rose- Are you suuuuuuuuuuuuure?

I feel like we've all be eating a lot of popcorn lately so I made us some cookies for this one.

Yum! I want some!

Rosey Julieth...you're steadfast in your mission here.

So I had the same thoughts at first. I'm very much that type of person that would rather buy what I want for myself because I'm indecisive. My fh and I have been living together 6 years. We have what we need. Options: on the invite you're presence is enough. Option: website link to where people can donate money towards a honeymoon or house fund. Option: put the link and just do a small amount of registry. (I know my grandparents would never do cash or the donation thing!)

So you are asking if you can be rude on behalf of another person? If my friends did this, I would be grateful for the shower, but feel sometime of way that my guests were ask to make it rain on me......

Would you ask a stranger for money? Would you walk up to your grandma and say, "Hey grams, I really want $100. Can I have it?"

Probably not. Even when asked what you want, most people won't just say "I'd like cash," unless it's an immediate family member, who probably already knows that anyway.

Showers are to SHOWER the couple with GIFTS for their new life together, whether those gifts are to help them start their home or upgrade things in an established home. The registry is for that purpose, not the wedding, because wedding presents are a nicety, not an expectation.

That said, a shower is NOT there to make it rain cash on the bride and groom. That's not what it's for. If you truly don't need anything, have a pre-wedding get together without any mention of a shower and just leave it at that.

And I agree with Spazzy. If someone I know mentions gifts in their wedding invitation (meaning they mention a registry or Honeyfund, etc.) or demands cash for a shower, I'm going to find the ugliest decor piece that's nonreturnable I can find, and make sure they know how EXCITEDLY I'll be to see it in their home the next time I visit. Just because they were rude enough to ask for money/have a Honeyfund/ask for wedding gifts.

Rudeness begets rudeness.

Cookies for this post too.

Asking for cash = rude

Sharing cookies = nice

Sharing pictures of delicious cookies I can't actually eat = sad

lol

@beach I'll send you some. You deserve cookies.

Aww, thanks FlyingSoon!