wedding etiquette
My father was married twice since my mother. His second wife played a vital part in my upbringing and I still consider her my mom. Getting to my point how do I or do I have to incorporate my father's current wife? My mother will walk dwn alone and my stepmom (dad's 2nd wife) will be escorted dwn. What to do abt dad's third wife?

Married: 05/26/2012
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Posted On: Sep 8, 2010 at 5:00 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Meghan
Married: 08/20/2011
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Sep 08, 2010 at 5:02 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
How long have they been married? I would talk to her, and tell her this isn't about her personally, but she was not in your life growing up. You are happy she is in your life now, but there will be places of honor for your mother and the step mother who helped raise you.

I would reserve a place for her on the front row though, next to your father's sea

Married: 2+ years ago
Sep 08, 2010 at 5:03 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
either have her escorted also. and yes, I think you should have her escorted since the other two are going to be escorted.

Married: 05/26/2012
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Sep 08, 2010 at 5:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
they have been married for nine yrs she had no parts in raising me. My stepmom who raised me isn't bitter but my father went abt the divorce and remarrying in a real disrespectful and insensitive way. And I am really sensitive when it cmes to her feelings. I have no ill feelings towards my current stepmom, but I dnt feel like she deserves that spotlight.

Meghan
Married: 08/20/2011
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Sep 08, 2010 at 5:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Tell her that! It's not that you don't love and respect her, but your mother and your stepmother were the ones who raised you. Tell her you are greatful she is in your life now, you care about her, but that honor truly belongs to your mother and stepmother.

Married: 05/26/2012
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Sep 08, 2010 at 5:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks Meghan B.

2d Bride ®
Married: 10/06/2009
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Sep 08, 2010 at 5:27 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
You dad's third wife may even be fine with that. NotFroofy became part of my life only when my children were already 17 and 19. My son says he does not consider her his stepmother, because he was already over 18 when she arrived. He loves her, and he was an attendant at our recent wedding, but he was beyond the need for another parent by the time she arrived. And NotFroofy is just fine with that. She knows she didn't raise him. And while she loves him, too, she does not feel the need to be considered any kind of mother of his.

Married: 2+ years ago
Sep 08, 2010 at 7:38 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Boy do I understand your problem! Except mine is with my father/stepfather. My father lives five minutes away and wants nothing to do with me, but still wants to walk me down the aisle. And my stepfather raised me and IS my father to me. I decided that I will have my stepfather walk me down the aisle and my real father walk behind us. But when the minister says "who gives this woman away..." it will be my stepfather who says 'I do'. That way my father is not in the spotlight and no one is upset. Took me forever to come up with that! Whew! So, good luck in your problem! Maybe you can do what I did!

Married: 11/06/2010
Reviews: 5
Sep 08, 2010 at 7:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
She should already be seated next to the empty chair where ur father will sit. She doesn't need to be escorted down the aisle. She is not close to u and shouldn't expect the same honor as ur mother or the step mother that raised u. She should expect this since she is wife #3 and is a little late to the party!

Married: 05/26/2012
Reviews: 5
Sep 08, 2010 at 8:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Heather A. my brain is spinning Deirde H. thats so what Im thinking, and I knw when I report my decision it is going to be WWIII LOL between my dad and I, he's like a big kid he will never understand. LOL
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