Parents having dress issues

Hello everyone!
I recently got engaged and both of us really want a renaissance wedding but I just found out my mom and his mom do not want to dress with the theme. I was thinking of just finding a happy medium between full garb and 'normal' wedding dress. Does anyone have any ideas? We are not planning to get married until next August so we have a lot of time. So far all I have found is: http://www.silvermane.com/acatalog/MR100510.html but I think it might be a bit too formal. Thanks in advance!

Posted On: Jun 24, 2009 at 12:47 AM | Vendors are allowed to participate

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dhaemion
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wowjunkie
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Posted On: Jun 24, 2009 at 12:54 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
Honestly, I would just let them wear something they were comfortable in. Not all of your guests are going to participate, either. You can add touches that make it rennaisance-esque but not too far out there - lace up dresses, flowy gowns, ect.

wowjunkie
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Posted On: Jun 24, 2009 at 1:02 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
Maybe something like this but without the bell sleeves? http://www.renaissancewardrobe.com/rwshp/index.php?l=product_detail&p=9
Maybe this one in sleeveless
http://www.pearsonsrenaissanceshoppe.com/AnneBoleyn.html
I'm finding that a lot of these gowns would look pretty good with modified sleeves, and that gives them the renaissance touch, but isn't overkill.

CelticChick831
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Posted On: Jun 24, 2009 at 9:40 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
I like the dress you chose but I think if they dont want to dress up for the theme you could find a long wrap dress similar to the one you have the link for and it would blend it well. Hunt around or talk to someone who might be able to make them dresses.

Ms. Nakilah
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Posted On: Jun 24, 2009 at 9:49 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
Even if they just want to pick a dress that makes them both comfortable maybe they could match colors... its not about what your guest have on... its about your dress and your theme. you wear whatever you want to... full garb down to the chasity belt...lol j/k. like someone else said some of your guest may not comply either... so maybe ask the mothers to pick a color. and that way they are comfortable and they still stand out. Just my 2 pennies. "}

Marita O.
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Posted On: Jun 24, 2009 at 4:14 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
I think that you will find if you live in a warm climate, the full garb will be very hot and difficult to move in as it is layered. For those ladies there could be real health issues involved with full garb. If you have a great seamstress or a Jo-Ann fabric store that could recommend someone, take a few hours and go down to the store and go through the Costume section of the pattern books to see the varying styles and selections and colors. I think that is a really great place to start. You may find something that will suit both parties. Your wedding planner is a great resource for initiating compromises ....... For instance, there could be 2 outfits, one for pictures, for the ceremony and the reception. You just all need to come to some common ground on this. I am sure the mothers will be more than happy to accommodate for an hour or so and then make the switch. You just need to decide what the priority is.

Sunshine
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Posted On: Jun 25, 2009 at 1:39 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
Here is the thing....THIS IS YOUR WEDDING DAY!!! Why don't you just tell them that one time dressing like that won't hurt them and that you would be very happy if they did. Because your getting married and it's YOUR wedding not theres and things should be the way you want them. Thats what I would do if it was me.

Dawn T.
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Posted On: Jun 25, 2009 at 5:37 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
If the Renaissance theme is that important to you, then you can try discussing this with again. However, you should still keep in mind that, while you have a vision and idea for your wedding, this may be a bit too extreme for some people. Not everyone is going to feel comfortable wearing a costume, or costume-like outfit.
If your decor and immediate bridal party are fine going along with your renaissance theme, then I think you may have to settle with that. Color choice can be just as important to the look of your photos as style of their dresses. They can always wear long dresses in good "renaissance" colors that they'll be more comfortable in.
A couple of things to ask yourself:
Is the way the mother's are dressed more important to you than them being happy?
Would you really want to cause resentment at the start of your marriage over clothing?


Fenella
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Posted On: Jul 04, 2009 at 2:56 AM | Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with the PP.
I think if you talk to the Moms, you can probably reach a happy medium. Maybe they feel that style of dress will be constricting.
If you can come up with some options for them that are somewhere in the middle, they might come on board.
Or maybe ask them what it is about the style they don't like and try to reach a compromise that way.
I realize it's your wedding day, but they have to spend the day dressed in this attire too, so if they are uncomfortable with it, I think you'll forego a lot of heartache and possible bad feelings if you have a plan B.
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