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Eating Disorder??

My family is concerned I have an eating disorder but I think they are crazy!! Is it possible to have an eating disorder and not think you do??? Now I'm paranoid!! I weigh 125lbs and I'm 5.7" I don't think thats an unhealthy weight. I said I wanted to tone up for the wedding and everybody started freaking out saying how thin I am and I need help...but I said tone up...not loose weight! I admit I do have a fear of gaining weight so I tend to be very aware of my portions and usually only put healthy or low calorie things in my mouth. But isn't that just being healthy? Why do I have to feel peer pressured into eating donuts and cake for snacks like them, maybe I want a fruit...is that so terrible?? I just feel bumbed now because everyone is calling me and telling me I look like a skeleton and I look like the living dead...that's so mean. I work so hard to look nice and they are saying I look like I have an eating disorder? Will I look like "the living dead" at my wedding? So upset!!

Dee

Married: 09/17/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:21 AM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Zephyr

Married: 01/10/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:28 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
My brother continues to say that, even if he sees how I eat (guess he thinks I have bulimia). It can be difficult for people to separate toning with losing weight, cause for most people it goes hand in hand. Let them know the difference and don't let them get away with those comments, or else they will just keep making them!

mayo

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Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:28 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
It is possible to have a disorder and not face it... down deep the person knows just doesn't want to realize it. the way it sounds they're just being protactive and picky for you and over you.. If this is all true that you rather a fruit then a cake then great.. There is nothing wrong with that. I'm not a doctor.. so I don't know all eating disorders. As long as you're not making yourself throw up, or straving yourself for periods of time.. you should be ok. IF you want a reality check (if you feel the pressure you need reansurence) then simply ask your doctor.. If your family still picks at you about it.. tell them to call the doctor that you're fine and healthy..

Joanne C.

Married: 06/06/2009
Reviews: 6

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:43 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Well you are within the healthy range for your height - 118-159 lbs. Here's some questions: Does reading that make you want to be 118lbs (lowest possible)? Are you intensely afraid of gaining weight? Do you believe you are "fat"? Do you get your period every month? Is your behavior around food highly restrictive (eating part of an apple, counting bites, etc.)? Do you binge and/or purge? When your life gets stressful, do you find that you react by either controlling your food intake more, or by binging and then feeling guilty? Your answers will probably give you a sense of whether or not you have an eating disorder. From what you've written here it doesn't sound like it. Don't worry about the "living dead" comments. On your wedding day, you will be beautiful!

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:49 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
this is hard for us to tell you. But I will say that sometimes family and friends can be very skewed in their assessments concerning this. I used to be well over 200 pounds, I was actually a compulsive eater. When I started getting control of my portions I had many family and friends claim I was "starving myself" Which is absolutely not true. I had just changed to HEALTHY portions, but because it was not what they were used to with me it freaked them out. They knew me as the girl who could eat an entire large pizza by myself, now I was only eating 2 slices...that's not STARVING! I've never been "skinny" I'm 5'9" 145 pounds, far from anorexic...but still I hear friends or family tell me that I have gotten TOO thin and might have a problem!! Ridiculous! So make sure your reasons and behaviors are HEALTHY for yourself and if they are, take their comments with a grain of salt and be proud of yourself for respecting your body enough to take good care of it

soon to be mrs hubbs

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Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:49 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
well it does look like your thin in your pics but by what you say you eat and all my guess is your just a healthy eater and you got some lucky genes lol some of us only dream of being that thin. maybe they are so worried cause its not easy for them or they are over weight and cant stand to see you small when they are not. i had a small eating disorder when i was in school however my mom caught it and forced me to eat and made me see that i did not have to be really small to be happy (cause big girls run in my family) anyways my point is that if you have a eating disorder you should be able to tell for yourself cause most of the time you will go days without eating or just eating tiny amounts to keep from feeling sick then when you look at yourself you still see fat and think your ugly all the time. you get really depressed also. im not a dr but these are the things that i did and i know other girls that did the same thing. i went from a size 12 to a 2 in just a matter of months and i

soon to be mrs hubbs

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Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:52 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
really did look like a skeleton and dead i had no color to my face at all. but with you... like i said you got some lucky genes girl lol and dont beat yourself up just cause someone else is not as lucky or they make bad eating choices ex cake...candy... keep eating what you like and dont worry about them. just tell them you dont like real sweet things to eat and it makes you sick or something ( i know some people that cant eat candy for that reason)

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 9:55 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
another thing is that when you're already slender and fit people think you're crazy if you work out or eat right, but that's how you STAY slender and fit....healthy weight and fitness is not an end destination, it's a lifelong commitment. So once I lost the weight people would say "ok so you can stop now right?" but there's nothing to "Stop", I'm not trying to lose more weight, I'm maintaining. Should I stop getting regular exercise and eating lots of veggies just because I reached my goal weight? Of course not. Just like you said you are doing. There's nothing wrong with toning your muscles even if you are not overweight. If you said you weren't eating anything from now till the wedding, then that would be a problem. You sound healthy to me!

Dee

Married: 09/17/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 10:35 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks everyone, I feel less paranoid now. Laura, that's exactly right, if I didnt eat small portions and healthy foods I would not maintain my weight. Sadly Soon to be mrs hubbs my genes aren't that great, my sisters are thin because they've gotten lipo (numerous times) lol. I used to be a size 9 growing up and now I'm a 6, it's really not that big of a difference! I hate that everyone is commenting on me...it's so annoying.

Dee

Married: 09/17/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 10:40 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I do have an intense fear of gaining wieght Joanne, but doesn't everybody???

soon to be mrs hubbs

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Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 11:22 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
well i think they are just commenting cause they dont have the will power that you do or they would not have had to have lipo in the first place you should feel good about yourself for doing the right thing to stay healthy so like i said before dont let someone else make you feel bad for doing the right thing

beckyboo

Married: 08/04/2011
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 11:33 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Here is my story: I was a figure skater since I was 8yo and There was immediate pressure to be thin and not gain weight. I ended up (like most figure skaters do) having an eating disorder. I got down to 94 lbs and I'm 5'7.5". I didn't see anything wrong with it. I was eating a piece of fruit a day and I was drinking plenty of water and sodas. Before that (because that was where it started hitting rock bottom) I would eat small portions of things and be very healthy about what I did eat. I had (and have) a very sever fear of gaining weight. That was before I realized what was going on. I didn't know or think I had an ED. I mean come on I need to stay thin so I can get the hight on my jumps and the rotations on my spins right? I have gotten to a healthy weight but I hate it. It is the worst feeling ever to be in the "Average" weight for me. Now I'm not saying you have an eating disorder, but that is exactly where I started. Keep a food diary and make sure you eat 3 big meals a day (con

beckyboo

Married: 08/04/2011
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 11:36 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
(continued) and a snack between each meal. Keeping toned up is not bad. In fact its great to do but don't over do it. Maybe talk to your family and reassure them that you do not plan on being unhealthy and that means by eating junk food or eating no food. Its a very bad thing to get into. I'd see a counselor for your fear of gaining weight. Counselors can do wonders for your self esteem. I wish you the best of luck and am keeping you in my prayers.

Dee

Married: 09/17/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 11:57 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks beckyboo. I guess you can have an ED and not think you do...that's what I'm afraid of. I don't want to be in some sort of denial. I don't think I am. I do feel a little pressure to stay thin because my FH is naturally super thin...he can't gain weight no matter how much he eats. I know he'll love me no matter what size I am...but still.

MEG

Married: 06/12/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 12:44 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I wonder the same myself. What is eactly the definition of an eating disorder? I am at a healthy weight. I weigh 118 and I am 5 foot 4. But I do control what I eat. Mostly eat only healthy food. I do track everything I eat and make sure I stay within a certain calorie level. By doing this I also am ensuring that I eat enough calories per day for my activiy level. I also I'm obsessed about working out..6 days a week. I definitely not starving myself, but I still have complete control of what I eat. I'm I healthy. Physically, yes. Mentally, I dont know.

SuchaDiva

Married: 06/03/2011

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 4:56 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I used to have an eating disorder in middle school all the way until i was out of highschool. It is possible to hve one and not think you. But your not trying to actually loose any weight. You just want to get more tone. I don't think that there is ne thing wrong with that. Just be careful because an eating disorder on youcan sneak up

MNBride2010

Married: 07/24/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 6:44 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Not saying I think you do or don't (since I don't know anything about this stuff), but if you are really concerned with how you are eating you could set up an appointment with a nutritionist/dietitian. They know more about whether you are getting enough of what your body needs or if you are being too restrictive w/your diet. Good luck!

Aussie Bride

Married: 02/07/2010

Posted On: Nov 21, 2009 at 6:52 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think the best thing to do is go to the doctor and talk to them about it. There is nothing wrong with eating healthy (i say this after eating a pack of steamed veges for lunch lol) I like to eat healthy and only keep healthy food in the house because I tend to eat any chocolate in sight but once a week I allow my naughty day and me and my husband share a pizza. The best way to know is to see the doctors. Several times my BMI has said im overweight but because I was working out a lot I had more muscle mass and doctors told me my weight was fine. They are the best people to ask and they will be honest with you. It is cruel for people to call you a skeleton and things so pay no attention to them and just talk to your doctor.

Felecia

Married: 03/20/2010
Reviews: 8

Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 6:56 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
My family thinks the same thing about me. I lost 30 pounds and they aren't use to seeing me thin. Right now, I'm 5'8 and weight 120lbs. I don't plan on going below that weight. I'm just eating more fruits and veggies and working out 4 times a week. I just want to maintain. It's ok to splurge every once in awhile, especially since the holidays are coming up. Just let your family know that you're eating healthy.

JulyBride

Married: 07/25/2009
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 11:44 AM
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FMS, the barefoot wife!

Married: 1+ year ago
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Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 1:04 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I know back in jr. high, all my friends thought I had an eating disorder, and they 'confronted' me about it. And I asked them what resaons did they have. They siad this: You go to the bathroom after you eat lunch everyday, I had braces, I have to brush my teeth after i eat, everytime. You only eat salads and soups: I don't like pre-made sandwiches, I like them fresh, not sitting in your locker all day. You're so tiny!: I am currently the tallest person in all of juniour high, Of course I'm thin, I can't stop growing! After they thought about my answer, the realsized that I didn't have an eating disorder, but I thanked them for caring enough to talk to me about it.